please help..

Hi umm.. well i really need some help with a problem i'm haveing soo please any advice or opinion's or anyone who can relate or whatever you feel like saying is appriciated. I have know'n someone who has been verbaly abusive to me for a long time and i've become soo attached to this person i feel horrable every time i try to get this person out of my life, i become guilty feeling and get back with this person. I've taken the step's yesterday to ignore this person's call's & text but i feel soo horrable i just want to cave.. i feel soo guilty please help me out .

this person has been calling here all day and my heart race's and i get panic attack's from it, i donno if i can ignore this person any longer i feel like a jerk for doing this.

If you're thinking of who I think you mean, give her this number and get her the heck out of your life.

If You Are Suicidal Please Call
1-800-SUICIDE
(1-800-784-2433)

If she has problems, she needs to deal with them on her own. You need time to deal with your issues, too. It doesn't sound like you two are doing each other any good by the negative emotions that come up when you guys interact.

This doesn't mean that you have to cut contact forever. Once you guys are healed up, you can try to reconnect. But, if the same behavior patterns re-appear, you may want to consider abandoning the relationship/friendship altogether. Some people, while caring about one another, are just naturally a volatile mix.

Thank you for replying & the phone number frayed, i'm tryn really hard to get away from "this person" but it's the hardest thing to do. I've fallen in love romanticly with my verbal abuser, if this person get's worse im not falling for it agin... it aint the first time i've fallen for that trick, if the calls increase my brother say's he can get this person's number blocked for me. I will keep the number handy thank you frayed.

No problem. Just remember that, unless you're intentionally hurting someone, you're not responsible for other people's moods and emotions. Just for your own.

All the logic in the world cant ease this heartach of ignoreing this person, this person today is calling my house franticly pleading me to talk but aginst the pain i just ignore the pleading and crying cause i know it's minipulation. I sent that crisis hotline number you gave me frayed to this person but im still soo guilty feeling for what im doing, i won't cave.. i won't cave...

Stay strong, bud. If someone makes you feel bad, and is over-taxing your emotions, it's time to call in reinforcements. You gave her a way to begin helping herself. That's more than a lot of people would do.