Really worried..

Okay, so I'm new here - as in just registered...

So, I'm 18 years old and my concern is for my boyfriend... We were talking about a week ago and we were talking about hanging out because lately there's been a lot of stress on both my side and his [I live alone at 18 and we're both in highschool, he lives with his dad who is engaged and in the middle of a divorce] and he stated to me

I deal with screaming and put downs because of me bugging them so much. I deal with violent things from my mother too.

Which bothered me...

Tonight, I was talking to an older friend of his and mine about this situation, and she brought up how lately he seems to have been dropping hints when I'm around about what's going on at home [he only seems to do this when I'm around, he feels more comfortable and knows I have more power to help 'cause I'm not afraid to go tell someone of a higher power] and how he appears to get treated, like how he has to put up with his dad's 'fiancees' drug addict son who just got out of jail [again] about a month ago...

My boyfriend has previous stated to me that his dads fiancees son has told him that he should tell me to

F*** off

and

Tell her she's f***ed in the head

He's never talked like this before, and he only told me because it really upset me... But, I also realized, being the person I am, that lately he seems to be getting slightly depressed and he's even mentioned to me thoughts of suicide.

I can't bring this up with his parents, because I know they'll yell at him for even telling me seeing as they've told him before that there are certain things he's not allowed to tell me about [which he ends up telling me anyway]. It's not like he never listens to them, because he always does, he's a good person. If they tell him no, he doesn't do it.

I just wish I knew how I could help him... By the sounds of it he's been getting verbally abused, possibly even physically at times... I'm thinking of asking him to go see a counselor with me so he can talk about all this, I think it would really help and that might be part of why he's been dropping so many hints...

Help? Please?

it's obvious he's trying to as discreetly as the situation allows to cry out for help. is he 18, too? if so, could he possibly move in with you or a friend? if his family really is verbally abusing him it could have some serious effects on him, you, and the rest of his life. i've went through something very similar with my family, and while the abuse will get worse when he leaves; it will stop once he leaves and/or ignores phone calls. nothing hurts worse than leaving your family, but when your family treats you like $#%^ why stick around? you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends. tell him to try to talk to them, and if that doesn't work just leave. if he's 18 wtf can they legally do? not $#%^. most of the time, after about a year, it becomes much easier to develop a relationship with controlling parents. all they have to do is realize their child is indeed a responsible young adult who won't take their $#%^ anymore.

Yeah, he's not 18 too so he can't come live with me or another friend or else that would already be started [the moving process that is]. But I know what you're saying, I've been out on my own since I was 16. I talked to him a bit more about it, and I'd asked him to go see a counselor with me and he was like

No! They can't do anything to help me!

So, I asked him to just think about it and get back to me later, and 20 minutes later he told me he'd go. So, I think he realized that he needs to talk to people about this as well because he knows there's not much else I can do. I can go into his house and give his family hell for what they are doing, but that will lead to them telling him he can't be with me [not that he'd listen.] But thanks for the tip on how long it can take to have a relationship with controlling parents, I only have to wait a couple more months and maybe my relationship with them will actually form!