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Am I Crazy

Postby Xstreme76 » Sat Dec 20, 2008 5:21 am

Im a 32 year old father of 2, and for reasons at the time that looked good. I allowed my mother and 22 year old brother to move in with My family and I. I wish I never did.
Today my mother brother and I got into an argument about who is allowed over and who isnt. As usuall my mother decides who can and who cant. The one person I dont want over is her twin sister that has through the years abused me, hurt my mother emotionally and pysically, and taken from my family over and over again. I show her twin respect cause she is my mothers sister but I do not like her. There is a long story about our family but the answer I need is this. I told my mother and brother how my aunt tried to kill me when i was 8. She was cleaning her house, and made my cousins and I stay outside. Me being a hard head went in to use the bathroom. Others followed and she got angry. They all ran and I stayed like an idiot trying to speak my peace. She got the belt and went to spank me I grabbed it, and she got madder. She shoved me up to the wall and held her forearm against my throat, and lifted me off the floor. I couldnt breath yell or do anything to get her off. I cant remember how long she did it but when she was done she threw me out the door coughing and throwing up flem. She said get out her house and yard till my mother returned from....I cant remember but her and my dad went somewhere that day. Well anyway they didnt come back till later that night around 7pm. I told them and they said it didnt happen. My aunt told them she just spanked me and I was a horrid child.
Back to today. They laughed and yelled and called me a lier. So we called my middle brother who was there and only 2 years younger then me to varify this ( he was 5 or 6 at the time) one other thing my mother said if true she would have kicked rainys ass and no child desrves to be choked no matter what they do. Well he told them the same as I did more or less. But then they all said I deserved this and i was a bad child and she had every right to do it. I yelled they yelled i shoved pass my mother and then my brother got in my face and put his hands on me and when i defened myself my mother attacked me.
I cant take this anymore, the only reason she is there is cause my kids love her so. I cant be in that place they had me for so long as a child and younger adult again. There is alot more to our history, my father not being my real father drug and drinking abuse by our parents, but i need to know am I crazy, do i bring this apon myself?
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Postby Chucky » Sat Dec 20, 2008 9:48 pm

Yo,

I don't think that you're crazy for feeling this way, but I can sense your deep frustration and bitterness (towards your aunt). Just going back though: Did your wife agree with your brother and mother moving in?; and what is her opinion on all of this?

Anyway, from reading your post, I got the feeling that you are the type of person who never speaks up too much when you feel you are being mistreated. Perhaps this stems from that incident in your childhood. Whatever the casr, it is your house and the rules should be set by you and your wife. If someone else doesn't like the rules, then they can just leave.

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Postby jasmin » Sat Dec 27, 2008 9:57 am

Hi, Xstreme76! If someone laughs and sais you lied or you deserved to be hit or chocked by your aunt, they are being abusive too. Your kids may love your mother but that doesn't mean that being around her is good for them. You don't deserve to be going through this again and your kids shouldn't be growing up in this environment, if you ask me.
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