very strange things happening in my house

desperatedan wrote:
I think she wants to love and she wants to feel empathy and she tries her hardest to do just that.

Is that just wishful thinking and/or you giving her an excuse for her past behaviour? (i.e. as long as she is trying to love you now, she can be forgiven for her past behaviour). One must wonder what you would do if she started messing about again - Would you give her more excuses and forgive her?; or would you pack-up and leave? Sorry to be critical dude.

Well it's funny how things turn out. Despite denying everything and trying to make another go of it, I've just found out that everything I previously thought about her cheating was spot on - and I found out from her very own sister!! Her sister doesn't even trust her around her boyfriend because she knows about the way she behaves when drinking. Apparently, she's not just flirtacious, she's full-on and throws herself on people. She does this even if they make it clear they're not interested, which I believe constitutes sexual harassment.

There are now suddenly members in the family who believe me and members of her family that have seen it for herself so now I know it definitely 100% wasn't to do with my paranoia, it wasn't all in my head at all! I stayed at her sister's house drinking until the early hours of this morning and my GF still made me get up to take the kids to school, if I didn't then she wouldn't have taken them so I didn't have much choice. Her sister couldn't believe it when she saw me in the morning, she said she felt so sorry for me! Her own flipping sister!

Mad how quick things change eh??!

Indeed, this will surely alter the future path. I wouldn't advise 'milking' or taking advantage of this newfound knowledge. Instead, just play mr. cool as you have always done, and then you will surely come out on top of all of this.

hey my friend i would like to add this main as well as an important thing that when living with people some strange things do happen..all you have to do is to make sure that your behavior is nice and caring... if at any moment you sound harsh then problems can come on your way so try to be calm and relax