Daughter's abusive boyfriend

Hi, rsmiller! Gosh, sorry we didn't reply sooner. It's nice to see that your daughter broke up with that guy and that things are better.

Glad things worked out for you and your family.

I got one for ya'll!
My daughter was 16 when she met this boy who was 17. She is now 17 and he is 19. Pretty much everything mocks rsmiller pain in the butt(lol). Except that I am a single mother that also has a 11 yr old son. My daughters sperm donor was barely in here life for the last 5 yrs. I being abused myself about 10 yrs ago have noticed the signs in this boy. He disrespected me, my parents, my sisters and the rest of the family. My home and my rules also. He also shoved my son down our stairs and he flew into our front door.
He put her on his phone plan even though I told him he couldn't. He used my debit card without my permission. I finally grew very tired of this and told him he was no longer allow at my home. He went to her father and cried the blues and then suddenenly her father wanted to be involved again and enforce his partial visitations every other weekend. Well her father and this punk talked her into going to her dads and staying there.
I filed contempt and somehow he dodge the conferance. They turned her against me by the boy telling her if hshe ever comes back to me he will leave her.
I have not seen my daughter in 9 wks. My lawyer is going to the courts to prove this boy is abusing her emotionally and mentally. As far as I know he has not hit her. But I also have harrassment charges on the boy because he threatened me twice.
But above all of this I am worried about my daughters well being and emotional state.
Any advice out there????

Thank you,
jmcmaster

Hello I am glad to hear that your daughter saw sense and ditched the prick. I am currently in the situation with a highly rebellious just turned 17 year old daughter and it seems her 21 yr old boyfriend is much the same. I feel between a rock and a hard place. It is not helped that his mother who lives in another state has booked and paid for train tickets for the boyfriend and my daughter to go visit over christmas and new year. This lad has proceeded to tell his mother a pile of untruths about myself and my daughters relationship. Yet he doesn't realise his behaviours especially the last couple of months have contributed to the stress my family is feeling. His mother did not bother consulting myself or my ex husband until today after weeks of us wanting to hear from her. I have witnessed this lad verbally abusing my daughter, I have witnessed him restrain her, I caught him and my daughter in a compromising situation a few months back and I nipped that in the bud early. Over the past few months he has been coming around they watch dvds etc and slowly he has inched his way into her bedroom. In general Pissing in her ear so to speak. He has threatened to harm himself if they split up, using all sorts of techniques She turned 17 years old last month and all hell broke loose, she wagged the last week of school saying she "didn't HAVE to go" and for the last month she has been sleeping over at his flat, She has refused to come home, but she has been home to eat and I must also mention she has taken food out of the house cos he is no longer getting an income from his work, cos he hasn't bothered turning up for work, So he can't feed himself let alone her, and he hasn't paid his rent or bills for the past 4 weeks. So today I have come to the conllusion to say ok if she is going to WA then she is going I cannot legally stop her ( I am in Australia) but I will not be funding this trip or anything towards it. Society really has done damage to so many kids. Teenagers are rebelling worse than my generation or the generation before, simply because Parents hands are tied. All I can do is hope she sees sense. it hurts to back away.