where to go from here?

Long story short, I met someone a few months ago and the relationship started OK but when I saw some red flags, I tried to raise them e.g. extremely clingy to the point of not giving up This person would wait for me outside of work, she would make the way into my office building quite often invading my workspace at times, not to mention the massive amount of messages and the phone calls I would receive daily.

It got to a point where I tried to break up but she would refuse to accept it and eventually apologised so I would run back. This cycle went on for months. She said some very hurtful things about friends and family but still I accepted her apologies. I felt worried but each time I didn’t make time for her I would have 100 missed calls/messages a day.

A month ago things got way out of hand when she had numerous suicide threats and started locking herself in my car and said she was not leaving unless I promised not to break up. The police turned up a few times and she has since admitted the suicide threat was a “cry for attention”

Anyway now it’s gotten to the point where I still receive 100 or more missed calls daily unless I made quality time for her. So I forced myself to spend time with her and then got the courage to contact police days later. In the days since she has made a number of threats and called nonstop daily 100 or so times. I have deleted and blocked every form of contact but she will still call through work and private numbers. Even claims to be following me and ill admit at time she knows where I am. Now the police clearly saw what she was doing but also knew why I was still keeping in touch with her. They want to file a restraining order and a charge of harassment.

I don't know where to go from here... I just want my life back, want to walk away from all of this but im at the point where friends and family are fed up and ready to walk away from me. How do I let this end? how do I move on?

This is slightly outside most abuse issues, but I would suggest firstly be aware of your own safety as a priority. Listen to police advice.

As this sounds quite extreme, has she had such issues before or is this the first you are aware of. Also is her family not concerned, does she still work..?

I don't know much about her past relationships but I would imagine she may have ended up in similar circumstances. Since she lives overseas she has no family here I can confide in. She still works but since its in health care any l would worry about her employment future if she is charged under the law....

I suggest start distancing yourself from her change phone numbers email addresses, close your facebook, whatever. This is what I would do, try and put some distance from her.

I would hope that if I did nothing to inflame the process or react to her she would find something else to focus on.