please i need help..

i am in a verbal-emotional abusive relationship and i thought in time he will get better but i dont know what to think anymore..i always tried to mantain my personality and my opinions but i think slowly he put me down and i dont know any more if he is right or wrong; we had a normal fight upon a normal subject but he reacted with so much hatred and swearing at me and calling me names, saying who am i to tell him what to do (i didnt even done that, i just told my opinion and showed him i am not happy..). maybe he is right. maybe i am over-controlling. but why he reacted like that? why is he calling me names?

i would have understood if he was talking with me nicely..when i tried to explain myself more (we were texting) he said stop eating crap (but they were my opinions!!!) and he ignored my phone number so i cant text him anymore or anything. the most crazy part is that we are living together and since we had this fight (3 days ago) he is sleeping in a separate bed and ignoring me (is not the first time). i decided to ignore him as well but i started to put myself questions..until when? usualy i am the one that starts talking and tries to save whatever is to be saved but this time i really feel hurt. he said really hurtful things..like if you dont like it pack your things and go/ i can get you out of the house in a second! etc. and i feel really upset (i got a cold as well) and fed up of this emotional rollercoaster...i think i need to see someone because i have the feeling slowly i got inside my head (we've been together 7 years) and i cant imagine my life without him and where we live now i dont have many friends..

so. advice. in this moment. to keep going ignoring him like he does? until he will see this time i am upset and (maybe??) he will try to talk with me? or to try to talk with him? been there done that, first is pretending he is still upset and after i promise i will gonna change !?! he is alright but inside i feel furious because i feel he doesnt see the way he is treating me ...
please help..

Hi Rebecca,
In response to your problem, I'd like to help you.
How old are you btw?
Well basically, relations are complicated and as its a live-in relation you guys have a lot of emotional and physical attachment. But, even though you love the other person a lot make sure he\she reciprocates the same back. In the course of loving someone don't sacrifice your self respect. Don't let him take you for granted. Honestly, you two should try to sit and talk. Ask him whats bothering him.
7 years is a very long time but if someone doesn't love you you gotta move on. Remember, what's meant to happen will happen. Fight back being a lady. Sort things out, but never give away a lady's pride.

Real love does not hurt. Trusting in your feelings or your instincts is your right and you don't have to ignore them for him or anyone else.

It sounds a lot like crazy making behavior that he's making you question yourself and thinking well maybe he's right. Do you feel wrong?

When he ignores you (withdrawing affection) you didn't say but when you go to him finally to make things better...do you tell him he was right? If he said hurtful things, why should you have to make the first move? It sounds like he's manipulating you so you will stop standing up for yourself.

You say you had a normal fight, but his reaction and response was pretty extreme. You showed him you were not happy and it sounds like he pretty much did what he could to tell you too bad, he didn't care?

You can't change him, and how long has it been since you started hoping he would get better?

Only you know what's best for you, but you did mention seeing someone. It's helpful to get feedback from someone else because he's got you seeing things from his view and his view is wrong. You mentioned you didn't have friends in the area, maybe you could get on the phone with family or someone you trust?

I hope things get better for you. You do deserve to be treated with respect and to not have to constantly doubt yourself. You matter. Don't take the blame for what he's doing