Is this abuse?

I've been married to my husband for almost a year, but lately our arguments seem to be getting more and more heated. I Just need some advice to know if any of these things can be classified as abuse.


Pushed me away when I tried to get my phone, twice.

Forced me to stay at work when he was scheduled to work and clocked in so that he could leave.

Broke my aux cord and headphones.

Keeps my phone and keys and won't give them back.

Tells me to shut the ###$ up, calls me a bitch, and tells me to ###$ off when he's mad.

Won't let me go anywhere with my friends without a fight, and interrogates me when I get back.

Tells me he was much happier before me and that I'm a miserable person and I make him miserable.

Gets extremely jealous.

Makes me feel pressured to have sex.


Don't get me wrong, I contribute to the arguments, and I cause some of them. I feel constantly stressed and generally unhappy, and I don't know if this is due to the relationship. Some advice would be very helpful and appreciated.

Hiya..

this sounds like a really difficult relationship for you and i'm sorry that things are so bad xx

yes, this is abusive..

everything on the list is definitely abusive and they show a complete lack of respect for you as a person with your own wishes and needs..
Particularly concerning to me is the pressuring you to have sex and the pushing you.
You have every right to expect to have your wishes respected and your body is only yours.. to allow to be touched only if you choose freely to do so.

The other ones are also really concerning because they show him to be emotionally abusing and controlling of you..

There are a few things that you could do..
it would be a really good idea to get yourself a support network in place.. also leaving him until he agrees to get some anger management or heavy duty therapy sorted out would be an ideal solution.. I don't feel comfortable with you being there on your own with him.
Is this something that you'd be able to try..?
Get someone over there with you and have a talk to him.. maybe enlist the help of a family member or a police officer so that you can feel safe and he'll know that someone else knows.
The thing that most abusers can't deal with is for other people to know because they really want to hide this stuff from everyone else.. once you bring other people in to it, many abusers find themselves forced to acknowledge the issues and change them.
xx