Adults living at home

Do the disadvantages outweigh the advantages? From my personal experience, the only advantage is saving money for your own place, but other than that is a living hell. Parents are overbearing, constantly criticizing you because you have different beliefs and opinions, they are nasty and disrespectful because they don't agree with your career choices and the way you dress or style your hair. Do they think just because you live under their roof they can control you like a puppet? Violate you privacy? Or think they have a free pass to treat you however they want? Do they twist Bible verses for their own purposes? Have you tried telling them what you are feeling but they are incapable of reasoning and continue to be *******s? Like I said before they don't have to agree with your choices but that doesn't give them the right to be disrespectful. Why can't parents see that this is a recipe for resentment and a distant relationship?

I think it depends entirely on the adults involved, jamola. Your parents seem really difficult to get on with and abusive. In that case I would say that saving money should be secondary to looking after your own sanity. And that getting a houseshare with friends or considering other cheap living arrangements would make more sense than putting up with that just for the money.

It is their roof and so they do get to set the rules. Where those rules are so abusive, the best plan is to leave. It doesn't seem like they're going to change or that you can reason with them.

Ada wrote: Where those rules are so abusive, the best plan is to leave. It doesn't seem like they're going to change or that you can reason with them.

I agree completely. They won't change, and they don't care if they're disrespecting you: they just see it as "their house, their rules". In fact, they probably see you as their property too, and treat you as property instead of an independent adult human being.

Make yourself a long term plan to get out: save up, work two jobs, start looking for house-shares. Onward and upward!

Western cultures are somewhat unique in how kids move out so young. In Asian cultures children often live at home more or less permanently even if married. I think it has a lot to do with affluence. In richer countries, people can afford to move out and get their own places so typically do when ever the age of legal adulthood is reached. Whereas in poorer countries, economic necessity has effected the culture resulting in multiple generations all living under one roof.

What I'm finding is after being raised and abused, I found other's to "take me in" blame me for their problems, and abuse me as well. So it's best I say to find income, or work for rent and have PRIVATE self-controlled space no matter what to avoid being abused. Many of these appear to be Narcissists.

I had a friend who'd take in waifs and strays once, lol.

I don't tend to move in with others because I like privacy and autonomy. I tended to attract people without boundaries who would get in my personal space too much and need me more than I was comfortable with. Though people get very little of those living at home, there would be other concessions that also don't narrow down choices to living out the rest of your life on a checkout or something.