Im so depressed and stuck! Please support....

Im so glad I have found these forums. I live with a verbally abusive husband. He cheats on me and leaves me home all the time. When I threaten to leave him he cries and begs me to stay along with calling me names. Im so tired of living like this. I am depressed and don't have an oucne of self esteem left. I have two kids and no where to go. To expensive to live by myself. I was an unwanted child and living with family is not an option. And to top it all off, this man has slept with EVERY one of my freinds YEP! discgusting right! Im out of freinds and it makes me so mad my last freind knows what hes done with my other freinds!!! And how depressed I am..how could she do this to me?? I just don't know what to do. I stay locked in my room when I can and just cry myself asleep. I didnt know that life would ever be this hard and depressing. Is there hope? Will it be like this forever? Please say some prayers for me that I will be happy someday again.

Hun, this guy is abusing you and has cut off your support network, isolating you and enabling him to have more control of you.

You don't deserve to be abused in this way, and you really need to find a source of support. I have sent details of a Domestic Violence Support Agency to you via PM. They may be able to help you, offer you a means of support, and advise you of any benefits etc that you may be entitled to which could make it easier for you to leave, if this is what you chose to do. There are also refuges for victims of domestic violence. Emotional abuse is a kind of violence due to the emotional pain and fear it inflicts upon a person.

Abuse of this kind can escalate and become physical. It doesn't go away, and you really need to think of your emotional safety. People on the forum are always here to listen.

masquerade wrote:Hun, this guy is abusing you and has cut off your support network

I don't think she had a support network: her friends haven't been real friends. I think she's been trained, like I was, from a young ago to be a soft target for these people.

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Hurt17 wrote: I have two kids and no where to go. To expensive to live by myself. ... Is there hope? Will it be like this forever?

I'm in the same boat as you, you have my empathy.

Get out if you can, take your kids. If you can: it isn't always possible. We don't all have support networks, and Welfare doesn't always help you.

What you can do, now, is to read some good books. If you can't keep them in the house (I did, I just disguised the covers with floral sticky back plastic so they looked like romance novels: he wouldn't look at them), read them at the library, or at a cafe or something.

Most useful to me have been the following:

- Control & Power, S.Horley
- Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, P.Evans
- The Verbally Abusive Relationship, P.Evans
- Why Does He Do That?, Lundy Bancroft
- Living With the Dominator, P.Craven


I've learned tactics to use, and methods to protect me.