ANY and EVERY time you tell (not suggest - TELL) someone what to think/feel, or what they "should/shouldn't" think/feel, that is, BY DEFINITION...
THOUGHT-POLICING.
& Thought-Policing is always, BY DEFINITION...
MENTALLY ABUSIVE.
Don't tell me how/what to f*cking feel. Don't tell me how/what to f*cking think. Nobody but ME gets to say what and how I SHOULD or SHOULDN'T feel or think. I own my thoughts. I own my feelings. They are mine. I am 100% entitled to them 100% of the time, absolutely regardless of ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Period.
Stay in your place.
F*ck the thought police!