hello, i've just found this site. we have 4 children, 2 educationally labeled as gifted, 2 with borderline IQ to gifted. not such a big thing, but i'm just stating it to give you background.
our 3rd child, who is now 11, has a very high IQ and has always been unusually attuned to people's feelings and attitudes. we noticed this when she was just a toddler, it was that noticable (she also didn't speak in sentences until she was a little older, then broke out in complex structure). for the most part we treat her at her "mental" age because that's how she relates to us (her 16 yo brother just made a comment on that last week, how its hard for us when she gives the rare typical 11 year old reaction to something, because she is usually ahead of us). because she is small for her age, most people treat her as an annoying puppy. she can usually shrug it off, though not always, and it bugs me like crazy.
okay, here is the deal. just about 3 years ago she began to quietly or silently repeat her own phrases - literally mouthing the sentences seconds after stating them. we were stunned at first - and for a while my husband made it a point to try to "get" her not to do that. finally i pursuaded him to ignore it, hoping that THIS reaction to it would lessen it. she did have some stress in her life at this time, she never had any friends her own age (coming from a 2 parent family, no cable TV, being academically over her schoolmates - all this made her somewhat different from the other children in the lower income neighborhood in which we lived)... but finally 2 years ago we bought a house and moved to another neighborhood. we had the opportunity to put her into a "gifted" school, but i felt socialization was the most important thing for her and turned it down. during the move this mouthing behavior was really accentuated. finally, 2 years later, it ebbed but recently returned with her entrance into 6th grade junior hight (again, friends are a huge issue).
i searched the web but never found a description of her behavior, until NOW. palilalia! and in finding this, i see that it looks like she has another behavior that i had NEVER thought was an indicator of something else - the repetition of a phrase or song sentence over and over and over again. she has been singing to herself since she was a baby and for the past 2 years sings with a chorale group, so i just thought this was related to her gifts with music. but now i see it is also an indicator of possible tourette's diagnosis.
should i get her a clinical diagnosis? is it worth it since she doesn't even realize she does this and i see that many children outgrow the symptoms. i must admit i'm afraid of the medical bills (we have a lot of them already) and honestly i'm also a bit afraid of the stigma. any advice on that? reading the last post from the young woman with all the website links was very freeing for me. i felt good enough to write this here after reading her post. i guess what i've most been worried about it the possible implications for other issues (her sensitivity concerns me enough to worry about psychological disorders in her future).
she also has orthostatic hypotension, just a footnote. she has experienced a black-out and temporary blindness from this, but is currently not being treated because her symptoms were not severe enough to warrent medication and the doctor felt we could watch it closely enough without medication, tg.
thank you for listening. at the very least this has helped me put this together in my head for the future!
d,a,g,s 's mom