Online Therapy

Has any of you tried online therapy? I decided to try Talkspace, but I don't know if I should give it another month (that will get billed on Monday) or just stop.

It seems I just keep getting asked more and more questions. I'm an introvert and very instrospective so it's now like making me think about things is doing that much. I already know them. Then she doesn't seem to comment on my answers, but ask even more questions without giving me a course of action to help with my procrastination or try to give me coping skills. This is supposed to be the end of week 3 so it's fairly new, but the thing that rubbed me the wrong way is that I explained things about why I barely have contact with my family and how I have a chronic illness that is very rare and doctors don't even understand well, and she asked if I had family or friends that could visit me for about 15 minutes, when I had said I had no support and needed to work on how to build relationships with people.

I answered that I did not have any friends and she did not respond to that. Yesterday she asked again what have doctors recommended to control my medical stuff when there is nothing. And even though she is supposed to be available at nights starting at 4, she "answered" (I was still working on a response to her) at 3:47 so she could start her weekend early. She was going to send a cute image about the weekend and by mistake sent a picture of her with some guy. This tells me she was just trying to hurry up and was not that interested in my situation.

What I need is to have someone in my life that gives me support and CARES. I saw an in-person therapist last week to see if that would work better, but when I said that I had been upset about something that happened when I was a child and making it clear that I did not want to talk about it, he said in a demanding tone "was this something that was done to you?" "was it a man or a woman?" I'm going to give him another try tomorrow, but that made me feel like he is not expecting me to open up about that with him after being talked to like that, and if he ever talks to me like that again I will get up and leave. I swear, what is wrong with these people!

Finding a therapist that is not only good but a good fit for you is hard, and is a long process. Therapy is something that is supposed to be helpful to you, and if you do not feel the online therapy is helping you at all, then I would say drop that, and stick to irl therapy. I tried online therapy once, and I had a similar experience to you - I definitely think it is a Thing with online therapy, to feel super impersonal and uncaring, due to the fact that it is taking place over a computer, rather than face to face.

So yeah, my little bit of advice is to drop the online therapy and stick to the guy you are seeing right now, at least for a little while. Be sure with him to be firm about what you are and aren't willing to talk about, so he will not delve into things you do not want to talk about in the future.

Good luck! <3