Narcissistic Victim Syndrome treatment therapy?

I was married to a N for many years >25. I realized there was something peculiar about her and her family, but not offensive -YET. She was assertive and I was easy going, laidback, not wanting to argue. Eventually My life became a living nightmare that I could not leave, because she threatened to say anything and do anything to make sure I never saw my kids again. I was more than walking on eggshells, I was under attack. Finally, I had a stress filled nervous breakdown after Six years of therapy and 2 Psychiatrists, then finally the last one said, "Your wife is a narcissist, why haven't you left?" Nobody else put 2+2 together but him.
I started to research Narcissism and found that the partners of N's are eventually the victims that need help. The N rarely changes or seeks help. Their is a trail of us victims walking in the streets in various dissociative states. There are descriptive websites run by enlightened victims and a few therapists that understand it, but most of the more informed. experienced clinicians are outside the US.
Bottom line: There are hoards of sufferers that need a path back to who they once were, but NOWHERE on the internet can I find a source of help.., anybody familiar with niche practitioners or clinics that understand the twisted problem??? Narcissists almost never will go to therapy, so there is not as much collective data on the condition and the trail of suicidal betrayed victims it leaves behind.

My ex is a diagnosed narcissist. I quietly...left him. I divorced him. No contact.

I have PTSD from the marriage. We were married a long time. I'm starting trauma therapy and that should heal me, my T thinks. Freedom is bliss. No regrets.

Good luck.

-- 18 Mar 2017, 14:10 --

woodstock41 wrote:I was married to a N for many years >25. I realized there was something peculiar about her and her family, but not offensive -YET. She was assertive and I was easy going, laidback, not wanting to argue. Eventually My life became a living nightmare that I could not leave, because she threatened to say anything and do anything to make sure I never saw my kids again. I was more than walking on eggshells, I was under attack. Finally, I had a stress filled nervous breakdown after Six years of therapy and 2 Psychiatrists, then finally the last one said, "Your wife is a narcissist, why haven't you left?" Nobody else put 2+2 together but him.
I started to research Narcissism and found that the partners of N's are eventually the victims that need help. The N rarely changes or seeks help. Their is a trail of us victims walking in the streets in various dissociative states. There are descriptive websites run by enlightened victims and a few therapists that understand it, but most of the more informed. experienced clinicians are outside the US.
Bottom line: There are hoards of sufferers that need a path back to who they once were, but NOWHERE on the internet can I find a source of help.., anybody familiar with niche practitioners or clinics that understand the twisted problem??? Narcissists almost never will go to therapy, so there is not as much collective data on the condition and the trail of suicidal betrayed victims it leaves behind.

People can leave, if they want to. Do it quietly, have a lawyer, a place to stay and GO. Don't tell her. She'll be livid because she lost control. But that won't be their problem. It is not easy, but it was well worth it.