Being harrassed & blackmailed.

Literally don't even know where to start. I had broken up with the father of my two children. I had started seeing a guy (please note, I was not in an exclusive relationship with him) who seemed so lovely. Took me on trips, shopping sprees, out to dinners, cinema trips. Really spoilt me even though it did make me feel uncomfortable & often said no, yet he said it made him happy to do so. After a few months I had an unexpected bill that came up from a previous residence that I thought was paid off by my ex (kids dad) & was threatened with bailiffs unless paid. Being a now single mom of 2 I stupidly asked this guy to help me out. I took a loan for £1050 & made an arrangement to pay back £50 every month until payed back. After I had payed £200 without fail, he told me that as he now knew I wasn't with him for his money & that he could trust me that I didn't have to pay him back. I soon after decided to give my kids Dad another chance. I explained this to the guy & although he seemed annoyed, seemed to accept it. Within a week, he decided that I was no longer entitled to the money to keep & wanted the rest upfront. I told him I just couldn't do that but could continue with the agreed amounts. He said that wasn't good enough. I then blocked him from all communications. He downloaded some sort of app that changed his number so he could keep messaging me after I blocked each number. This continued for months until he said he would take me to court unless I spoke to him & readded him on facebook. I told him that as he said it was a gift and didn't have to pay it back that he wouldn't win a court case, but he said it wasn't about winning, it was about causing me stress (he knew I severely suffered with anxiety) & miss work. I agreed to talk to him & he cancelled the court application. After about six weeks or so after he then started suggesting picking me up from work & taking me out to dinner & I refused. He said if I didn't offer him more that he would come into my work & tell everyone 'what I was really like'. I said I was willing to be friends because he had helped me out & he said he wanted to talk everyday & know about my day so I thought I can do a bit of chit chat & that'd be enough. It wasn't & he said he wanted more & he said he could come to my work & he knew my bus route & I asked him to leave me alone again & he ended up reapplying to court, then telling me he had cancelled it but he hadnt & I was ordered to pay £650 back to him. After that was ordered he again said if I talked to him he would cancel it. He sent a photo of a confirmation that legal action had been put on hold & that he had cancelled it. Before registering to this site he has just said that he doesn't want to be friends & he never did & he will do everything in his power to make giving us another go happen. He said if I delete him there will be no hard feelings but I know for a fact that if I do he will start the court up again & it will be his word against mine that I said I'd pay but didnt & ignored court action even though he said hed cancelled it & I can't afford to pay it off in one go. He said actions speak louder than words & that if I don't delete him then I'm saying it's not impossible that we have a future even though I have told him we don't. This has been happening for a year & a half & as much as I want it over I just can'tafford to pay him back in one go & I dont trust him to let me just walk away. He comes into my store regularly without me knowing. He will message me & tell me what my hair was like that day. What i was doing. Where I was. The scariest thing is I don't even know he's there. How many times has he been outside my house? Watched me do a school run? Does he know when I'm in the house alone? Yesterday I said I couldn't talk as I was about to leave for work & he said no you're not you don't leave for another half an hour. I have no idea what I can do as I feel going to police will just be a dragged out ordeal he will use to hurt me & he will twist the truth & make me look like I was a money grabbing liar even though I have worked full time since I was 18. I just don't know what to do.

Does your children's Father know if this and what does he say. I would talk to an Attorney. Sometimes they so a free consultation. Did you pay back any of the money. I would start. Didn't you mention that a court had ordered you to pay.

Anyhow. Pay back in small amounts. I've been there with them saying lies about you. It happened and people were this lies of me and some believes it and some didn't. It ruined my reputation for years with the people that believes it. But what ever. It made a mess in ways and made me stronger in some ways. Anyway the shallow people that believe the lies aren't worth having for friends.

I would be worried for safety. He comes in the store and knows your hair looks like? That's weird. And he knows when you leave for work. Also weird. We put cameras around lately and they can be bought online pretty cheap. And they link to your cell phone so you can watch. Some can tape things.


Please talk to someone about your legal options. There are strange people around. Some guys won't take No. And by all means keep a good watch on your children. Is your guy safe. I know of a odd guy that was attracted to a girl at work. He was supposedly dating her behind her bf back. Then she stopped things and he is so the kind won't take No. He paid to do a search on her boyfriend. Knows where he works and stuff

He sits in the girls back yard and all. He has a new girlfriend and he made a fake Facebook to stalk and harass the girl and he has his new gf thinking that this old gf still wants to be with him. he tries to always have two girls fighting over him

Move if you can. Stay off line for awhile. Stay out of sight for awhile. Block social media. Can you hire someone to Follow this Guy. And keep a step ahead. I wish you the best.