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New here and realize I have a problem compulsive spending

Postby ilikegettingpackages » Sun Jan 15, 2017 7:31 pm

HI everyone, I was browsing the internet trying to find a support group for people like me that just have the need to spend money and buy stuff! First off this is my issue, I get obsessed with something and want to buy things such as right now I'm having issues with wanting old video games from nintendo and everything nintendo...I've bought $2,000 worth of stuff in the last year because I feel compelled to have the things I had when I was a kid, or because I seen someone online with it or because I think I won't be able to get it in the future, I've bought handhelds, systems, games at at the same time I feel thrilled and depressed because I bought everything then I always say to myself "I can just sell it and get my money back"

This is just an example..I always have or make excuses for buying something no matter what it is I "need it" or "Because it will be out of stock" "I'll never find it again" "I could make money off it in the future" Its getting ridiculous..Like I had an obsession with dollhouses and bought hundreds of doll house related things to collect...even making them to the point where they are just all sitting in a bin for the last 4 years....all of it worth money still...Then I was obsessed with collecting owls, had hundreds of them ended up not being interested in them and donated them all....I don't get what my deal is and why I go from one thing to the other and lose interest in things so fast then I am in debt. I feel kinda weird! I've tried to stop and tell myself you "Don't need this" "Don't blow your money" but then I hit "Complete order" and I get a thrill..until I get the package I feel too upset to open it...then I see how much I owe to my credit cards....

Sometimes I email stores to cancel orders because I realize what I just did was so dumb! Places like ebay, amazon etc are the worst....its so hard to resist, esp on ebay when bidding or buy it now "Only one remains in stock" I don't need any of these things I am buying!!! I don't even use them, sometimes I do just to justify the point of purchasing it but then I feel terrible I spent $300 on a game system...or $20 here and there for something else...it adds up fast!! Then I will lose interest again and move to something else!!! I can't stop! I keep trying but it's still not getting to my head..I think "oh I'll pay it off in 5 payments" "Big deal" Then once I pay something off I'm like "Oh I can spend another $100 and pay it off" Is there anyone else like me??????
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Re: New here and realize I have a problem compulsive spending

Postby quietgirl2538 » Tue Feb 21, 2017 7:36 am

I'm just like you or very similar to you. What has helped me was what I will call a "fast" from having money available to me. I had a debit card with only $300 a week. It would cover gas, food, and cleaning supplies if they were needed. I always ended up using that amount. I am currently debt free because all our credit cards are paid off (a sacrifice we made in order to get rid of them completely). I carry one credit card and I've been really really good about using it only for gas then I pay all of off except $5 to try and build up my credit from a 539. I stopped buying stuff because we had no savings. We couldn't take trips to Disney land or Disney world like other people could. I also felt I owed it to my kids to be able to save and do things like this while they are still at home. Build memories. So I have many reasons to think about why I should save, if I can, instead of spend recklessly. Right now I am wanting to buy a CD player because I have a few CD's that I can't play because I sold my old one. The one I want is $25 so I am ok and it's a good reason to buy it. I like to play my music while my I'm in the shower or when I am putting my makeup on. And that is not too much money for one. Having goals helps a lot. I tell myself, "Don't spend" and when I leave the mall without buying things I don't need, I feel so good about myself.
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