eye contact

For a couple of years I had a trouble making an eye contact with others. It feels very uncomfortable, and I make others feel uncomfortable too. I have been to psychiatrist 2 times now, but it has not been helping me. Besides this problem everything else is fine, I am very friendly and funny person, but I can keep eye contact with people. Did anyone else have same problem, what did you do to get over it?
Thanks

wow although its not the only thing that i have problems with i never heard of anyone else who had this much of a problrm with eye contact as i do. its just so unbarebly uncomfortable and im finding it hard getting a job and i believe its partly due to my inability to make eye contact. it is horrible and my pparents keep having a go at me and this doesnt help my already #######5 situation as they just dont have a ######6 clue. But it is so much harder than people realize, even my counciller is getting annoyed with me coz i wont look at her.

yes i agree with you everybody. eye contact can be hard to make sometimes. i have a lot of trouble making eye contact with the school counselor and even my own therapist. it is something that i think most humans need to work on, but people with social anxiety disorder just do have this problem more often. sometimes it is good not to make eye contanct especially if you are walking in a dangerous part of a city.

anyone has any idea how to deal with this? how to feel comfortable makeing eye contact, I am sure it has a lot to do with me being aware of many little things. when I am talking to someone I am thinking how do I project myself, does other person notices I am uncomfortable, and that makes it worst. It seems I am putting this pressure on my self. And if I am talking to someone and not looking at them constantly, if we are sitting side to side not across each other, than I am feeling much better. I do not want to go for job interviews becouse I know I will create this tension.

i find that many time eye contact problems are caused on the basis of low self esteem. you may want to try buying one of the books from the website below for help on how to raise your self-esteem and live a happier and healthier life

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I have always been very uncomfortable looking people in the eyes. I am uncomfortable looking at them and NOT looking at them. I do not know where to look, and I am conscious of the fact that I am avoiding looking at their face. That makes me feel worse because I know what I am supposed to do, but cannot do. I do not know any way to get over this part of my social anxiety.

There has actually been one person into whose eyes I could look. I had a wonderful boyfriend after I got divorced who respected me immensely. He made me feel so comfortable loving him, and I could look him straight in the eye and tell him that I loved him. He was always interested in what I thought and felt.

Maybe it takes getting over social anxiety before a sufferer will be more able to look at people when speaking to them.

Hi,It's me.
I think I'm more depressing that you on this topic.
You are till a student? I was just graduated from a college. I think most of this mental problem is caused by the life in school. And when the symptom is seriouser, it will be following us all our lift,being like a devil.
Me,it's me.I always live with my devil. I can not help myself to look other people or even other still things. And other people usually dosn't understand me. They may treat me angrily.Glare me or abuse me or laught at me or spit in front of me.
Do you know?I didn't want to look at them or to glance away before them.No one understand.
Some times police could treat me as a thief.This is a life that normal people can't imagine.(You could learn more to view my(Chinese boy's) artical)
I get in touch with some people like me in China. It seemed it is hard to flee this problem, or call it illness.

The eyes are the window to the soul

I have trouble with eye contact as well. I hate looking anyone in the eye because it makes me feel just.....uncomftorable.

i hate eye contact too...maybe its because eye contact provokes aggression? maybe its because of incredibly low self esteem, avoiding eye contact lets you pretend no one listening to what your saying? maybe it cause people give me wierd looks like that