Polar Opposites

Girls who are very outgoing and social appear to be attracted to my shy, quiet nature (I'm male, by the way). I think it is beneficial for me. It helps me get out much more than I normally would. I'm 25 now and am single; but I can imagine that my future wife will be a very talkative lady who is the center of attention. It will certainly be a case of opposites attract, I feel.

I really don't understand outgoing people very well. In some ways they seem socially insecure in trying too hard to please people. They also seem very pompous, but maybe that's because I am so entirely jealous of them.

You're looking far too much into them. They are just carefree and uninhibited - They do what makes them feel best, what makes them happiest. If everyone stuck by that attitude, we would be happier.

Kevin.

I was in a similar situation. I'm a really shy (I wouldn't say I have, or had, social , introverted guy, but my gf is outgoing. She actually helped me become more comfortable talking with others (I still don't start conversations with people I don't know, but I don't have much trouble talking once it gets going).

As for our relationship, the only problem coming from the intro/extrovert opposite-ness would be that, now, I always want to talk to her... and she never has anything to talk about (I know, doesn't make much scene).

Anyway, I don't see why a relationship wouldn't work. You just have to "take the plunge" and try to work up the nerve to ask them out... Sorry I don't have anything more...

Yes, it is good to take chances, and risks. I try to view life as an adventure. Scaling mountains, fighting violent animals, crossing treacherous rapids, cheating death. Well, I used to be like that, now I work all of the time. But in a fairly dangerous job, as a trucker.
I think one of the most risky adventures is found in an intimate relationship.

i think its a case of person by person years ago i was the life and soul of the party but that was because i didnt know how else to deal with it i was petrified and felt more secure if people thought i was fine about everything. but then there was also my friends who were just care free so it comes either way i guess.

youll only know when you try it you deserve to be happy so fight for it
go for it and whatever comes comes well all be here for you