I feel like I can never deserve love or romance

Hi! My issue is about not being able to have romantic relationships because of the anxiety it brings me. I'm 23 and have never had a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with me from the outside looking, in fact, I always have admirers and guys who ask me out. I'm funny, nice and quite good looking. However, I have a super hard time developing feelings for guys, and the few ones I really fall for never like me back, which makes me feel like a failure and lose hope. I've been on many dates with great guys who were serious and were looking for a relationship, and in the beginning when a handsome guy gives me attention I feel thrilled about it and even fantasise about us getting together, but as soon as he actually tells me he likes me or starts showing physical affection, the world turns upside down, and no matter how attracted I was to him, I start feeling sick, and feel like I'm in a parallell universe because a good guy liking me is not supposed to happen in real life, just in my fantasies. It's like a thousand voices in my head start screaming at me how I don't deserve it and how life is playing me an evil trick and if I fall for it, something horribly painful will happen and I will make a fool out of myself. I don't even know how to word or interpret these feelings but they take over me completely and I get confused, sad and repellant towards the guy. It always ends up with me running away and not looking back. I'm always the one to break things up, no guy has ever really rejected me, and yet being rejected scares me so much my subconcious seems to drive me to "leave before I get left" as Taylor Swift puts it... So basically when it's clear that a guy likes me back, I lose my feelings for him and get super uncomfortable instead. When I date more "douchy", narcissistic and nonchalant kind of guys, I feel safe, like things are the way they should, but then I also get annoyed by their behaviour and keep thinking that I deserve someone better. I'm so sad, lonely and confused, and I feel like something is wrong with me and I should be ashamed that I don't deserve love. I'm also a super jealous person, I'm jealous of my friends who are in relationships, I feel deep bitterness and humiliation when the guys I go out with mention previous relationships they've had because I feel like I can never have that, despite all the guys who want it with me.

I feel the same way. A lot of the things you described sound like me. I feel like I don’t deserve love too, but a difference is because I’ve always been fat. You say you look good on the outside so I can’t relate to that but yes when I’ve made out with a few guys and they tried more I felt really scared and uncomfortable and backed out. I’ve always ran away from guys who liked me because I felt scared. I’m jealous of girls with boyfriends and babies as well. I feel like I’m not good enough to be someone’s girlfriend, and things always seem to go wrong with guys who want that. My anxiety will screw up something, like if I think they lose interest I get upset and end things even if they didn’t. Never had a boyfriend either and I’m almost 31.