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People are means to me

Postby jgross4573 » Sat Mar 18, 2017 4:49 pm

I don't know if I have asperger or autism. But I know I have dyslexia. I don't know if this is the right place to talk about this. But I'm trying to find some place where I can find people I can relate too. I'm having trouble understanding why people are mean to me and treat me badly. I'm not afraid to be myself. But it still hurts when people judge me when I'm in their presence. People just don't get me and I'm having a hard time making friends. People take advantage of me too much and I feel like I'm used in a lot of relationships. People say they like me but they are mean. I don't really want to be around people anymore because of this. All I see is people as jerks. I'm happy when I'm alone because I can be myself and not get judged. I'm uncomfortable when I'm judged even though I am confident in myself. I socialize at work but I never met anyone that really wants to hang with me. And also I never met anyone I truly like to hang with. People end up hurting me or making miserable. Part of me thinks it's best for me to be alone. And it makes me mad my mom and family want me to have kids when I don't want them. I'm not good with people. And it would drive me crazy if I had to have kids because I'll never have time for myself. I feel like I'm too selfish sometimes to have kids. Because I grew accustomed to being alone. And part of me is sad I can't find anyone I can relate too and would love me enough to but up with me and still love me. I'm young. I'm 28. I have a job. I have a place to live. But I spend my time alone most of the time. Because I'm stuck between either feeling lonely and enjoying my time alone. I don't have a boyfriend. And I'm deciding if I even want one. I love my job sometimes but sometimes the customers are just crazy and rude. They always complain about me and get mad at me. And I'm afraid of them sometimes because of how mean they are. It makes me not want to work with people. I'm just wondering if there is anyone out there I can relate too. Please help. Thanks.
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Re: People are means to me

Postby srf2017 » Thu Mar 23, 2017 1:45 am

Working with the public can be very difficult. I can't work with the general public for some of the reasons you have mentioned.

I too am alone and a lot of what you said I can relate to. I seem to have people judge me all the time even though I don't make a practice of judging others.

I don't really have any answer for you, but rather to let you know that you are not alone with your feelings; that there are other of us out there feeling the same.
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Re: People are means to me

Postby Combo » Fri Apr 21, 2017 1:54 am

Hi, customers at work can seem really horrible, I've worked in telesales before so believe me I know :lol: as long as you know that you're doing the best you can then it doesn't matter how rude they get they are just wrong, it's just realising that at the time that's easier said than done.

I work in a bar now where most of the customers seem pleasant but there are unpleasant people as well, I actually find myself antagonising customers at work even if I don't know them but that's something I have to work on personally.

As much as I'd rather avoid people I think the exposure will probably help without even knowing it and it could do the same for you too.

With that said I haven't walked in your shoes but yeah, you aren't alone in this :)
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Re: People are means to me

Postby sanchez2346 » Thu May 11, 2017 9:08 pm

Hang in there, you're description of yourself is the EXACT REPRESENTATION of myself. It's relaxing and peaceful being by myself all the time. But work is necessary and it seems to only add more stress to an otherwise simple life of mine. In other words PEOPLE make my life harder than it has to be.
I'm just being honest,but I know my viewpoints are unhealthy,, so I'm working on ME and being the best positive ME regardless of what others feel towards me. Man, it's so hard cause I have never felt solo anti social in my life. I'm in recovery btw so that's mostly my personal demons. Loved your post tho
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