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Postby baekhyun » Wed Sep 14, 2016 3:03 am

I'm 20years old living with my parents and I don't go out at all. I'm nervous when I see people passing by our house. I have paranoid thoughts about break ins so every noise I hear outside will always lead me to hiding while checking my windows like crazy. A little background about me, I've just moved to US from an Asian country that's why I don't have friends here and I can't go to school or work yet until my immigration process is ok. I don't have a lot of chance of making friends or talk to new people. I tried going out once for a jog. My parents are extroverted people who likes having dinner with their friends. I tagged along once too and I can say it was comfortable. Like what I said I came from an asian country with different culture and language. I'm not good in speaking english. I'm also not used to say "Hi how are you" to strangers and smile and all act friendly. It's uncomfortable not because it's not in the culture I grew up with but it's just uncomfortable and making me nervous.

I don't know if this will be relevant since this happened before I moved but I was diagnosed from Dysthymia. It got worse that I was prescribed medicines. My psychiatrist didn't diagnosed me with other disorders since she believes my anxiety issues comes from depression. I think i am making improvements right now considering I don't have suicidal thoughts anymore. I don't feel sad and hopeless but the anxiety never left me aside from that I feel empty. I don't know how to cope :cry:
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Re: Complete shut in

Postby deer_here » Sun Sep 18, 2016 10:11 am

Hi :)
I am 20 and paranoid and live with my parents too. Has your transition to the US been hard? Do you still have old friends you can talk to? I think that such a huge move to a new country (especially one on the opposite side of the world) takes so much bravery!
I don't know anyone else who feels this same way about paranoia and anxiety, especially not anyone my own age. You're the first person who I've heard of being in a similar situation mentally.

I am bad at coping with my anxiety too, but I like things that help me feel brave. For me, I love things that feel adventurous, when I can overcome anxiety to feel adventurous. Like if you can remember anything that used to spark a little flame in your spirit. Maybe from books that are fantasy or adventure (like The Lord of the Rings), or from music that stirs up feelings of freedom and emotion. Or I will write quotes on my hand that remind me to feel alive. Like "dont hesitate or allow yourself to make excuses. just set out & do it. you will be very, very glad that you did. -christopher mccandles"
and music that makes me feel better is "I love you, honeybear" by father john misty.

i think i have a lot of coping methods (i carry essential oil blends, and self care kits and i know to exercise and hold my dog and drink water and get out of my own head) but it's hard for me to actually do these coping methods when i need to, because i get stuck in very sad ruts and just lay down and don't move.

Maybe you could get a therapy dog? :D (If you like dogs!)
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