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Anxiety when alone with one other person

Postby mswaziland » Mon May 16, 2016 4:00 am

Has anyone ever experienced a sense of anxiety when alone with another person? I even feel this with my friends. This is something that really reduces the quality of my relationships with people because I can never hang out with just them. I always need a third person to be there to carry some of the pressure of socializing. That's something that goes through my mind when with another individual.

Maybe this has somewhat to do with a perception of myself as boring. I'm not a boring person but in conversation I feel like I can get pretty boring because I'm a nerd who likes to deconstruct things and talk about random facts (which in itself is not a bad thing but people are often uninterested in such topics). I also get bored with conversations pretty easily, and I often find myself drifting away from them in my head, reflecting poor listening skills.

My typical mommy issues include her never really making it easy for me to have friends over as a young kid. It was always a burden for her, and I guess I had a lot of alone time as a single child.
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Re: Anxiety when alone with one other person

Postby evenlife » Mon May 16, 2016 2:40 pm

Heyo mswaziland~
I can relate to this. I always feel like I can't carry the weight of socialization one to one. I need a third person to take care when I feel like no talking or I'm not interested in the topic. Sometimes I feel like I'm boring as well, I love to talk about interesting stuff I found online or I read somewhere, but people often want to just joke... well not all people of course. But I wish there were a space for a serious conversation about how cool is The Hotel Paradox.
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