No friends?

by **i <3 sophia** » Sun Jun 15, 2008 6:15 am

I have a hard time relating to people of my own age because I have some physical disabilities. I had 2 strokes when I was a baby and I have hemiplegia [Paralysis affecting only one side of the body]. No one really understands it, and they think I'm "weird" because I have it. At least people that I know in real life do. Some things kids my age go out and do, I can't, and it's because of my disabilities. It really sucks, but I have a couple friends that accept me for who I am in real life, and they are awesome!

drama_queen wrote:
Woolgatherer wrote:I wasn't exactly sure where to post this question.

But...

Do any of you feel like part of the reason why you don't have any friends (aside from the anxiety aspect) is because of the high standards you set for others?

For me, I suppose it may be because I have a hard time relating to people my own age.

Wow, it's like you read my mind, Woolgatherer! I have friends, but lately I've been having a tough time connecting with my friends, becoming closer with them... I feel like none of the friends that I have who are my age understand what I'm going through, with my depression and anxiety everything... And even though I have friends, I still feel alone. They're either not good enough for me, or I'm not good enough for them. I'm only in high school, and a lot of the people who I go to school with I just find too shallow and materialistic to spend time with. My friends don't understand why I'm so interested in learning about psychology and the human condition and why I'm so sensitive... But I'm so sick of just sitting around and gossiping about guys, know what I mean?
Sorry, I know I tend to ramble...
But anyway, I hope you are able to find people your age who you can relate to. I know how hard it is to feel alone and isolated from the rest of the world.

I can relate to that drama_queen. It certainly resonates with a lot of my own experience. I don't feel good enough, or they are not good enough.

At present time I have no friends. I have some online only.

by **ilovehim** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 11:30 am

I'm not sure really, it's a bit confusing when I think about it
I think there's more than one reason. I'm fine being alone and actually find it easier to have no friends because then no one is expecting anything of me. Also when I actually had 'friends' I couldn't get myself to open up to them even though we'd known eachother since we were little kids.. I feel like maybe I can't live up to their standards and they will never understand me so what's the point of even being friends so I just ignored them and they gave up trying to contact me

by **sweethappyprincess** » Sat Jul 12, 2008 3:23 am

Even i don't have any friend. Not even a single one. But after my marriage my husband is my best friend. But sometimes i feel like a friend is a necessary part of life. Because there are some parts of life you cannot share with your husband.

by **altbreg** » Sun Oct 19, 2008 11:06 pm

ilovehim wrote:I'm not sure really, it's a bit confusing when I think about it
I think there's more than one reason. I'm fine being alone and actually find it easier to have no friends because then no one is expecting anything of me. Also when I actually had 'friends' I couldn't get myself to open up to them even though we'd known eachother since we were little kids.. I feel like maybe I can't live up to their standards and they will never understand me so what's the point of even being friends so I just ignored them and they gave up trying to contact me

what do you mean when you put ' around friends? ('friends')

mine were just plain fake, I guess I was too, due to my inablility to open up...(9years) being alone does feel alot easier, but alot loney...

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