Can not relate

Is this common in social phobia? I find that I can not relate to other people. And conversely no one can relate to me. No one seems interested in me. I am a loner.

Is this social phobia? Or is it just me? I can not figure it out.

Does anyone else feel this same way. How do you deal with this?

I need to accept this in my life. I need to accept me as I am. If no one can relate to me, then I need to accept this. I need to settle with my condition in my life. And adjust to it and go on my own way in life. This is a part of the soul searching I have been going through now in my life.

It could be that you just don't fit into the area that you're living in, the lifestyle there might not be you.

No one seems interested in me.

Do you think people are supposed to be interested in you? No-one was ever interested in me, except when they could use me. By trying to be a good friend, I just got used.

I don't mean to suggest that you are like me, I just mean to say that I have never been able to relate to anyone, and I think that's normal.

I need to accept this in my life.

What, that you have a phobia? Who told you that anyway? I think the thing to do is to set out to learn what people are really like. Observe them as you would a mantis in a glass bottle.

I put it to you that, if you can't relate to them, perhaps the problem is with them.

Could be asperger.

That includes inability to understand and somethimes interest in how people work.

Would also mean to be obsessive intelligent and thinking about everything all the time.

I find myself relentless in arriving and having allready thought when I will leave. I get the people, thier world and understand but as for myself I think I have nothing to offer anyone. This falls behind seclusion and with depression but will say the people are sometimes creating also a social inequality because of either where or how Iam, and having or lacking social skills. I attend some funtions socially, but usually my family home and then a certain chair off to the side for smokers. This leads to today. I became somewhat literate in the past few days on skills and technology. A one time usually quick conversation. I'm afraid of people most which I know is not good. I wonder were my old friends are and why I never see or hear from them. I was the same basically in school, a shy type. I allways talked to me for the answers and never others. This path to now is the most difficult to overcome.