Help for Husband

Hi all,
This is my first time posting on a site like this but I need advice. My husband and I have been married for seven months now (we've been together since high school and we're 20 now) and in that time his night terrors have been getting worse. He's always had night terrors and, it used to not be such a big deal. Recently, though, they started getting worse. He will start crying, hitting himself - and thin air - and begging someone to "make it stop." When he wakes up he can never tell me what they were about. Actually, he usually tells me that he doesn't even remember having a night terror. Last week, he began biting himself...again. When we were together in high school he would bite himself - sometimes to the point of making himself bleed - when he was depressed or angry. I don't know what to do anymore and recently I've had to start sleeping on the couch because I'm seven months pregnant and his thrashing scares me. Is there anything I can do to help him?
Thank you.
BrokenGoddess1773

BrokenGoddess1773 wrote:Hi all,
This is my first time posting on a site like this but I need advice. My husband and I have been married for seven months now (we've been together since high school and we're 20 now) and in that time his night terrors have been getting worse. He's always had night terrors and, it used to not be such a big deal. Recently, though, they started getting worse. He will start crying, hitting himself - and thin air - and begging someone to "make it stop." When he wakes up he can never tell me what they were about. Actually, he usually tells me that he doesn't even remember having a night terror. Last week, he began biting himself...again. When we were together in high school he would bite himself - sometimes to the point of making himself bleed - when he was depressed or angry. I don't know what to do anymore and recently I've had to start sleeping on the couch because I'm seven months pregnant and his thrashing scares me. Is there anything I can do to help him?
Thank you.
Hi BrokenGoddess1773

, sorry that you are going through these difficult times right now. Despite what you guys do, talk to your baby, reassure him, because he will feel your nervousness, so reassuring the baby, you bring some feeling of safety to him.

i had my time of nightmares many years ago, it lasted years, but it was more like a breaking point...the stress, the problems had scalated to a point where i felt i could not go further...so i went through nightmares every night.
i also have some problems from my childhood, some i remember, some i do not...so all these comes together in times of stress.

you guys need to get some help...i can imagine that this is difficult for you being at this stage of your pregnancy!! he is hurting himself, not you. He is not coping well with the moment. it is like a shattered glass....it brakes mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually...but we try to keep it and move on within, until it finds its own way to come out.

i do not know if this helps,..it will get better...but it will take time, it helped me to see the components that brought me into this moment of crisis, some were my choices, other were just about people whom i cared.
keep posting, other people with more experience and knowledge will support you both.
I wish you both the best!