Got Caught Stealing- It's Time To Stop.

I have shoplifted 4 times in my life: a bracelet from a store at the beach, makeup from Fred Myers, gum at Target and a headband from Forever 21. The alarm was triggered at Fred Myers, and I was with my mom. I claimed that it had fallen into my bag. Today, I tried to steal gum from Target and my mom spotted it in my bag. Now, she knows what's up.
I steal because I feel down, because I feel neglected.
It's time to stop. This could turn into a very big problem. I hate myself for what I've done and I'm very tempted to do self harm behaviors. I need help about a) how to stay calm when I'm around my parents/explain myself and b) how to stop shoplifting and stop the urges.
I'm so scared about what's going to happen to me. I'm shaking. I'm so cared. I really, really, really ###$ up and I absolutely loathe myself for it. I just can't stop thinking that I could have been arrested, and it just scares the everloving $#%^ out of me.

Hopefully you can see a therapist. This behavior is not about needing these things, it is an expression of your feeling unhappy.

Do you feel a need for any of these items you steal, or is it 100% compulsive? If the latter, then I guess you are secretly trying to get love and attention from someone that you think is withholding it. Try to form/repair that or those relationships.