Confused White Woman

DenAm wrote:The desire is escalating and impossible to ignore. It's an irresistible urge now that I've learned more about this. If only you guys knew!!

? This post is not something to be discussed.
"Irresistible urge" means addiction (alcoholism, drug addiction,
gambling addiction,..), which is unhealthy per definitionem
and should be eradicated.
Just- such "urges" did have some unpleasant results,
not infrequently: http://www.newnation.org/NNN-Black-on-White.html

Anyway, your life.

Come on, noticing recent Internet history isn't a good way to figure out what he likes. He likely watches all sorts of stuff and he might even be skipping the cuckold parts and watching it muted. Black dudes are overrepresented in porn, black women and Asian men underrepresented. The makers of porn are generally retards. almost literally, and always try to make some sort of gimmick to get away making a crappy product.

Supersaneman wrote:Come on, noticing recent Internet history isn't a good way to figure out what he likes. He likely watches all sorts of stuff and he might even be skipping the cuckold parts and watching it muted. Black dudes are overrepresented in porn, black women and Asian men underrepresented. The makers of porn are generally retards. almost literally, and always try to make some sort of gimmick to get away making a crappy product.

You don't get it. Husband is not no. 1. problem anymore.
It's DenAm's fixation, obsession, not just ordinary sex fantasy.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_obsessions

If what's written before is true, this is serious stuff. Very serious.
Might end in divorce, STD, prostitution, violence, financial collapse or subsequent health problems.
If not- somebody has a good laugh.

Even a bit superficial source as wiki gives helpful advice re diagnosis (from posted link) :

Sexual obsessions are obsessions with sex, and in the context of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) these are extremely common (Foa et al., 1995). It can become extremely debilitating, making the sufferer ashamed of the symptoms and reluctant to seek help.

It cannot be overemphasized that the sexual obsessions in OCD are the opposite of the usual sexual daydream or fantasy. The thoughts are not really part of the person's identity, but they are the sort of thoughts or impulses the person with OCD fears that he/she may have (Aardema & O'Connor, 2003, 2007). The sexual ideation in OCD is unpleasant and distressing for the person with OCD. The individual with OCD does not want the thought to become real. The idea of acting out the obsession fills the OCD victim with dread (Gordon 2002). The sexual ideation in such situations is termed "ego-dystonic" or ego-alien, meaning that the behavior and/or attitudes are seen by the individual as inconsistent with his or her fundamental beliefs and personality.

Sexual obsessions in OCD rarely produce sexual arousal because anxiety and arousal cannot occupy the same space. As a result, OCD usually decreases sex drive. However, the sufferer's constant focus on not becoming aroused or checking that they do not become aroused may lead to 'groinal response'. Many OCD sufferers take this groinal response as actual arousal, when in reality it is not. OCD sexual obsessions often result in guilt, shame, depression and may interfere with social functioning or work.

Approximately 40% of sufferers (number could be higher due to the embarrassment associated) also report some accompanying physiological arousal. Reactions can include increased heart rate, a feeling of being turned on, and even erections, increased lubrication (in women), and orgasm. This response typically generates more confusion and uncertainty. However, this is a conditioned physiological response in the primitive thalamus of a brain which does not identify the thought as sex with a particular person, just sex. This is generally not indicative of one's own personal desires.

Arvan wrote: ? This post is not something to be discussed. "Irresistible urge" means addiction (alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling addiction,..), which is unhealthy per definitionem and should be eradicated. Just- such "urges" did have some unpleasant results, not infrequently: http://www.newnation.org/NNN-Black-on-White.html Anyway, your life.

Come off it, Arvan. DenAm did not say she just wants to spread her legs for a bunch black thugs. She wants to explore a different side of her own sexuality, and to do it with black men. She probably can find reasonable black men who would willing to help her scratch that itch she has. I think if she had a black lover or two, she'd be able to stop obsessing over it. Does she need to be careful?- sure, but unless you are going to keep your knees together, or be in a monogamous relationship your entire life (with a partner who does likewise, that's true generally.

It's true that much of black America is in pretty sad shape. I don't know what all the reasons for that are. But, FWIW, at least two of the white "redneck" guys who "stuffed" me when I was in JHS/HS have served time- one is still in prison.

I'm inclined to agree with Arvan and Little Boy Lost. This is not a healthy attraction. It's an obsession built on a foundation of degrading Incubus myths that were originally designed to justify keeping human beings in chains, and to scare slave owners' wives out of having enough compassion to go off and join an abolitionist group.

Put 2 men beside each other: One is a pasty plantation owner who sits around counting his money, eating high fat food, drinking whiskey, and getting waited on all day. One works in the fields behind a plow. If he's lucky enough to have been ignored and not beaten (a small percentage of slaves were lucky enough to not get beaten as badly), lives on lean foods offset by what fish he can catch and what vegetables he can pinch, he'll look a damn sight better physically than the pasty little white man. And the pasty little white men knew this. They also knew that they were outnumbered by something like 2 to 1. History is full of examples of oppressed peoples rising up and overthrowing their overlords. The Privileged Class knew this, and designed these ugly 'Creep' and 'Hottentot' myths to avoid a violent uprising.

As someone from a barely dissimilar culture, looking in from the edge of the USA, I find the American Legacy of Slavery quite tragic. How sad that such a large segment of the American population is still viewed by many elites as a subclass of sluts and creeps who are little more useful than feral hogs. Most of the men on these postcards (yeah, they turned this sh!t into postcards!!) ended up like this bc they were accused of being unable to control their big black dicks around white women. Some of the accusations were proven false. Most of the accusations were never investigated at all:

http://withoutsanctuary.org/

The things this woman says are as delusional as saying that she's attracted to her dog bc she believes he's really a werewolf who will turn into a good looking wildman if she humps him hard enough.

Black American men grow and learn and love just like any other American men, no matter what the colour of their skin. Some are good in bed, and some are not so good. Some are poets, some are mechanics, some are crackheads. Some are smarter than others. Some don't mind silly cracker women as long as they're getting good sex out of the deal. Some are deeply offended by being objectified as breeding studs.

Confused White Lady, if you try to act on this obsession of yours, I hope that you and your husband can find a decent, self-respecting man who you can treat with the courtesy that any human being deserves. I hope I'm wrong, but I'm not really convinced that you can respect the object of this fantasy, if you do find somebody who looks like he may be the one. If your fantasy guy's just in it for the sex, and doesn't care that you're condescending, great. But you might not be so lucky.

You should probably do some more work on deconstructing your racist beliefs before you approach another human being about this. Walking by black men and oggling their crotches doesn't count. Take a few classes in Critical Race Theory so you don't go out and embarass yourself.

*Edit: I was agreeing with Arvan about his views on sex obsessions as unhealthy. I just went back and read his views on 'race elitism' more carefully. I absolutely disagree with this nonsense. People become 'weak' bc they see evidence every day that being strong and talking back will get them killed or worse. This is the sad position that far too many African Americans are still in today.

The internet has a lot to answer. Like many things it can be used for good or bad. Porn is one one of the bad things in as much that it is very easy for anyone to access (too easy) Including children.

It's 2012 and a thread like this for one, exists and two, gets a response like that above.

Are we still that sexually oppressed and terrified of our own sexuality?

All of the people writing massive posts about this non-issue. Sexual fetishes come and go, and there's no harm in exploring. So, no need to waste your time trying to convince someone their feelings are bad.

This is so sad.

I have come to terms with this and accepted that I really, really like big black cocks.

The desire is escalating and impossible to ignore. It's an irresistible urge now that I've learned more about this. If only you guys knew!!

Have fun . Sure it won't be hard for you to fulfill your desires.

This is a psych forum. Unfortunately-or fortunately- psychology cannot be divorced from morality.
What some of the above posters have written is just a litmus of the state of moral decline dominant in Western societies.

But, one need not discuss these issues with "anything goes" people. What is more- and only- important is that, judging from OP posts, she has a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is a mental illness- not just sexual fantasy- and should be treated accordingly.

But, one need not discuss these issues with "anything goes" people. What is more- and only- important is that, judging from OP posts, she has a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is a mental illness- not just sexual fantasy- and should be treated accordingly.

Well, not really. Not OCD. It does not seem like any treatment will be necessary. If she wants to experience black penis then it should not be our concern.

Anxious58 wrote:

But, one need not discuss these issues with "anything goes" people. What is more- and only- important is that, judging from OP posts, she has a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is a mental illness- not just sexual fantasy- and should be treated accordingly.

Well, not really. Not OCD. It does not seem like any treatment will be necessary. If she wants to experience black penis then it should not be our concern.

No one can be certain of anyone's diagnosis just reading Internet posts. Lege artis, this can be done only in proper environment, by educated health professionals, i-e. psychiatrists.

Just, judging by OP tally of symptoms, in all her posts, there is a high probability her condition is a variant of obsessive-compulsive disorder & almost certainly not a sex fantasy (which it may have begun as such). Who does not see prevalent elements of obsession and compulsion in her descriptions is, IMO, either deluded or something worse.

No one can be certain of anyone's diagnosis just reading Internet posts. Lege artis, this can be done only in proper environment, by educated health professionals, i-e. psychiatrists.

haha nice one