should people seek help for sex addiction ?

I want to apologize for posting this in the wrong section.


I understand what everyone is saying.

I am constantly going back and forth on if I need help.

Whoever said "up your game" is really silly, lol.

Ive evolved to the point where I dont hurt peoples feelings, but it is a constant thing for me.

I think about giving oral sex to men all day long. it is obsessive.

Ive paid prostitutes to pee in front of me, Ive paid prostitues to let me tie them up

This is 24/7.

I go to work, I dont assault anyone... i control my actions but not my thoughts

I watch porn at least 3 hours a day

Im really really really really lost

Ive been cruising craigslist and actually hooked up twice this week.

The Autassassinophilia is the reason for the strange men, I get a kick out of the fact this strange man may kill me

IVe got a lot of other fetishes, too

I know that isnt right, I know it is not normal

but I am happy, I think. I am as happy as Ive ever been, lets say that

maybe i need to get a new idea about what happy is

All I know is that Ispend hours online trying to convince 20 yr old boys to send me pictures of their junk, and the other half of the time is fervent masturbation.

I just dont know what to do

No your really silly, lol. Its like your just looking for others to justify your actions. You said your ok with it and if your as happy and in control as you say then I fail to see the problem. You keep saying your not hurting anyone but my fear for you is that you could be putting your own safety at risk. Maybe that part of what you like, i dont know.

all I am saying is that I dont know if what I am doing is bad or not

yes, my safety is at risk and that is part of it for me, i admit, ive been reading about Autassassinophilia and a lot of people end up dead

I dont need justification, id go post on a sex forum if i wanted that

Ive only been asking one question

should I seek treatment for my sex addiction

i guess the answer is "no".

The only thing that I worry about is disease or getting killed, but for me these things could easily happen

oh, byt the way I thought I would mention I also have borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. I also have many many aspects of Antisocial personality disorder, in fact almost every single aspect - except I have a guilty concious ( only about some things) , so I really CANT have antisocial personality disorder but I do have many many aspects of it.

yeah, big surprise

I do take meds and I have been getting help for these things for a few years now. I DO think people should get help for psychiatric problems.

I know it sounds otherwise, but I am pretty mature about things and Ive really overcome my BPD behavioral problems and, like Ive said a hundred times, I dont hurt anyones feelings anymore


I just wonder if I should LIKE thinking about sex all day, or if that in itself is a problem

and if I keep meeting strangers off the internet for random sex im going to end up dead be it from AIDS or a bullet.

confused_stranger wrote:all I am saying is that I dont know if what I am doing is bad or not

yes, my safety is at risk and that is part of it for me, i admit, ive been reading about Autassassinophilia and a lot of people end up dead

I dont need justification, id go post on a sex forum if i wanted that

Ive only been asking one question

should I seek treatment for my sex addiction

i guess the answer is "no".

The only thing that I worry about is disease or getting killed, but for me these things could easily happen

I don't know but you seem to be more or less questioning whether it is "wrong" and not necessarily if it is "bad". I consider there to be a difference between the two.

I think this difference is shown between your first post in the thread, and this one I just quoted. The initial impression is that everything is fine, but yet now we have new, important information:

The only thing that I worry about is disease or getting killed, but for me these things could easily happen

If you think those things are likely, that might be a good reason to seek treatment.... but this was not initially made apparent.

I think seeking treatment or not, should be done for the right reasons: for your safety and other's safety. If you are going just by what other people think of you, that can get you into trouble. You could end up in bad situations just because somebody said "it's ok", or you could be fretting over nothing just because somebody said it isn't in the same scenario.

Honestly, people here know nothing about you. Which is why I encourage you to examine your situation and make your decision. Right now you're basically asking the blind for advice on colors. But if you really need a complete stranger to decide for you, then I'll say yes, seek treatment. Simply because I have no clue about you but it's better to be safe than sorry.

Yes, I understand it seems like I am going back and forth on the issue, and that is because I really AM having mixed feelings.

Sometimes I think I need help, sometimes I think I dont need help. Generally when "autopilot" kicks in I care about nothing, and all I can think about is the danger and the danger is what makes me sexually excited.

Im not neccesairly looking for a solution, you guys are just internet people and may be even dumber than me (no offense, I just really dont know) about this stuff.

The thing is Ive recently decided to figure myself out, and try to figure out why I am so anti-social ( technically and psycologically anti social, not just not being social) with a FTW mentality

I also have a necrophilia fantasy ( never did it, dont plan on doing it) and I like urine way too much.

I want to keep doing what Im doing but it is dangerous, so im going to have to think about it

Ive decided to talk to my therapist about this on Monday.

Does anyone know if one of the treatments is abstinence ? because I dont think I could do that.

I've had problems with porn in the past and I consider it destructive. Still a fantasy addict though.

My personality prevents me from becoming an actual sex addict.

I like to think I'd be satisfied with one person, but I don't know if I'll ever get the chance to find out.

Im 18 and have slept with about 30 guys, im clean, on birth control, and still tight as ever. It makes me happy, you definately shouldnt seek help unless it starts hurting you, everyone has their vice.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a sex addict. It's part of nature, people should be more supportive and less judgemental.

willy wrote:

benedictus 57 wrote:If the Morality for Morality sake should not EVER enter into the PORNOGRAPHY Question of what it right and wrong, then who's responsibility is it to see that "every existing form" of sexual pornography is what ("some") people believe as a behavioral norm is governed with moral justice?

What is morality about, to you? Pay attention to my context. I'm talking about the consequences of things, which are a separate (but often related) entity from social acceptability. If we suddenly decide that wearing blue shirts is immoral, that kind of thing is what I mean by morality for the sake of it. There's nothing wrong with a blue shirt.

So I'm not saying that there is no such thing as morality, per se. I am saying that some of it is contrived without regard to consequences, good or bad. What is the point of morality, if not to prevent negative consequence? So yeah. I don't see laws that are simply kept out of tradition, and nothing else, as a good thing. A law that examines actual consequences and has a sound and valid reasoning behind it is much more valuable to me than taking someone's word for it.

gwilly wrote;

What is morality about, to you? Pay attention to my context.

Firstly; sorry about not answering you earlier to your reply.
I read your context which by the way is about as one sided in my own views as your context is in yours.

I would imagine that you would see a general consensus on morality as being an open book free-for-all in whatever manner every individual adopts it to be for themselves. No disrespect but I was expecting a more introspective educated answer than the reply you gave me.

gwilly wrote;

So I'm not saying that there is no such thing as morality, per se. I am saying that some of it is contrived without regard to consequences, good or bad. What is the point of morality, if not to prevent negative consequence? So yeah. I don't see laws that are simply kept out of tradition, and nothing else, as a good thing. A law that examines actual consequences and has a sound and valid reasoning behind it is much more valuable to me than taking someone's word for it.

So would you say that many aspects pertaining to ("Sexual Morality") is contrived?
If so please explain?

gwilly wrote;

A law that examines actual consequences and has a sound and valid reasoning behind it is much more valuable to me than taking someone's word for it.

Taking who's word for it? Are you alluding that the five major religions of the world who all have a common foundation on many aspects of morality dealing with murder and rape just to name a few, and there's even a common moral consensus with regards to many aspects surrounding ("Sexual Morality") and why certain acts are deemed as negative and dehumanizing.

Interesting to see how many in this confounded world can see that Murder and Rape are supposed to be a definite no,no.

However; in aspects of Sexual Morality and sexual behaviors surrounding behavioral conduct and implements. The gate is WIDE OPEN.

Peace
Chris