Sexual problem relating to wife....

I'll keep this short and sweet to start....

Married just under 2 years and we're already sexualy in trouble. I love the woman so much, always have since i met her 10 years ago and will always continue to. She's the one, but sexualy i give our marriage a 1 out of 10.

She had not had sex before marriage, i had. As our marrige progressed we explored stuff but came to an almost abrupt halt within 4 months. Since then its been the same old missionary position and very rarely she wants to be on top. I have tried asking her to do things, wear things and say things but no luck. My desire for sex with her is pretty low now. I tried doing whatever she wanted to please her to the max hoping she might be more interested in things i would like from time to time but no luck. She gets very upset if i masterbate and thinks she isn't doing a good job because of it.

The things i would love to do with her aren't dangerous, painfull, or degrading. She seems to have a very narrow view of sex and what it is. I find that tough to deal with because she does seem to be so closed minded, I am not. I tried suggesting stuff, to eventualy just saying exactly my desire...no luck. She typicaly just kinda nods or says maybe and it never comes up again.

I could really use some help here!

This is more than a sexual problem. There's communication issues factoring in as well.

She may not understand why you are making these requests; that you need spontaneity. Try to have her open up to you about her issues with sex and trying different things. Voice your concern, but at the same time, tell her of the attraction you have toward her.

If this seems impossible to do on your own, or you try and she doesn't respond well, sex therapy may be something to consider. If she can't accept that sex is part of most healthy relationships, and she views masturbation as a negative thing, you won't change her mind, she'll have to undo her linear thinking through an objective third party. This could also be about her having issues with self esteem, if only in part.