I'm able to get an erection with easy women, but...

I have always done poorly with women so I got a book called the Mystery Method and it's helped a lot on how to seduce women and get dates and all. But having to use the book, which I do a lot, has sexually turned me off of the women that require I use it. I just get turned off of having to go through a psychological procedural act to get women into bed. But there are some women strangers, once in a while, who will just come up say a line like 'wanna ###$' or a direct invitation along those lines, after meeting and talking for a bit. I actually got super aroused by that line when I've been asked, which probably isn't good.

But I've been easily able to get an erection with direct booty call women who get men into bed, rather than ones where I have to use skill and procedure with. The only problem is, is that playerette women who come up and ask that, are not relationship material or even friends with benefits material at all, and the only want sex whenever it's convenient for them and never want to plan ahead or make a schedule. Any suggestions to how I can deal with this erection problem? Or should I just let it be and proudly accept what type of woman does it for me, and stick to them?

Hi harmonica,

You are talking about fantasy with women. But i think it is not good for 24 hours to have this. You are using books to get them. Hmmm, you get excited when you talk to women for a while, i mean you have erection control problem. It means you should control yourself and your thinking when you talk to them.You must become hurry when you meet some interesting woman. Why you direct tell them Want to have sex? Why do you want to enjoy fantasy for many times? Any specific reason for it? I am just asking.

stay away from those types of women that come up and say lets fu*k! they obiviously have done it before and could have aids which is a life threatning disorder that lowers the immune system till it almost doesnt work... you dont need that! stick with people you know! even if it doesnt work...above all stay safe

Ya I know what aids is. I don't often go for the those girls but once in a while I do cause again I can't tolerate going through an act and pretending to be someone I'm not, just to get women who aren't promiscuous. Plus I have no friends who I can get into sex. My gal pals aren't they type to sleep with friends. I think the best thing to do is to try to change my way of thinking and learn to accept the act. But it's very hard.

yea probably you can always meet women thru sex sites but changing your views might be good...do what feels right

Well putting on the act to get non-promiscuous women feels more wrong. But wouldn't sex sites be no safer for meeting someone with an STD and all?

harmonica wrote:Well putting on the act to get non-promiscuous women feels more wrong. But wouldn't sex sites be no safer for meeting someone with an STD and all?

You will always realize that accepting concepts are very hard. So it's better try to change them slowly.

Change them how?

harmonica wrote:Change them how?

I guess, it's your thinking towards those women.

This thread makes me cringe for so many reasons. Kyle’s comment was both sad and amusing. Apparently women who are open about their sexuality are dirty sluts, but the women who make you buy them dinner first, are virginal. There is such a thing as safe sex, and you only have to have sex once in order to transmit an STD. Sure there’s a matter of percentages and risk. But it’s naïve to think you can tell who is clean and who isn’t.

It makes sense that an easy target is more arousing than someone you can’t read or have to put a lot of effort into. It’s nice when someone finds you attractive and wants to be with you. It removes a lot of the stress and wonder.

It’s interesting that you seem to approach women as puzzles or objects rather than human beings. You don’t appear to have any interest in them outside physical contact. Do you think you have issues with intimacy or commitment? Based on what you’ve said in your other posts, there seems to be a huge disconnect when it comes to relationships and sex.

It’s not bad that you’re more aroused or more easily aroused by easy women. I find a willing participant far more arousing than one who isn’t. However, it does seem problematic that it consumes so much of your sex life. It shouldn’t prevent you from maintaining an erection when you do have those normal interactions and relationships.
Why haven’t you seen a therapist about this yet?