Genital herpes

I was told only a few days ago by someone I've only been dating for a couple of months that she is HSV2 positive (genital herpes) and it has broke my heart. I'm still shock because I went through this exact same situation almost 10 years ago with a different woman who had it as well. We continued to date but never had sex and things ended for different reasons but perhaps then I wasn't thinking long term. But for this to happen again feels too surreal, I mean what are the chances. Another reason why I'm in shock to be honest.

I'm so torn I really like this woman as but I'm not sure I can be fully at peace with her having this condition because I think I will always worry. I know it's only been a short time, but the thought of her not being in my life and starting over, letting go of this strong connection that we've only started to build is painful to contemplate. It's very rare that I meet someone like this. Last time was a few years ago but she turned out not to feel the same about me after around a month or so but the time before that, I can't even recall meeting a woman who I really liked and wanted to pursue and they felt the same way. I should not base any decision on this however but it is still something to consider. Hence why I feel so conflicted, I am waking up in sweats the last few nights since she told me. So I am not going to make any snap decisions yet, I have to let this panic pass over first I feel.

I've heard that the infected person can still spread it even when symptoms aren't present? Does the transmission risk decrease over time? So during unprotected sex, trying for a baby or otherwise what are the chances? I guess it's hard to say. I suppose if I continue to be with this person and eventually be intimate with them, then I will have to accept that I may end up contracting it myself because obviously I want to have unprotected sex at some point whether to have children or otherwise.