I am asexual how to cope and find love (only cuddles)

Please help

Hey WTFDIDIDO,

Sorry, I have no specific advice. Asexuality is probably not common, but there are others who feel the same. There are also others who lose interest in sex later in life, more common.

That written, while it's easy enough to find articles on asexual females, it's more difficult to find articles about asexual males. You mentioned you had told some people. Possibly they just don't believe you, and I wonder how early in the relationship are you speaking about this?

Question -

Do you mean asexual as in no sense of interest, or asexual as in turned off?

xdude wrote:Hey WTFDIDIDO,

Sorry, I have no specific advice. Asexuality is probably not common, but there are others who feel the same. There are also others who lose interest in sex later in life, more common.

That written, while it's easy enough to find articles on asexual females, it's more difficult to find articles about asexual males. You mentioned you had told some people. Possibly they just don't believe you, and I wonder how early in the relationship are you speaking about this?

Question -

Do you mean asexual as in no sense of interest, or asexual as in turned off?

Yes, it's a struggle especially having friends either not believe me or simply not understanding but the friends I am close with are still cool about it (it is the worst when I tell people I barley know/just met as I sometimes do when the situation involves a lot of booze/pot)

hard to answer the question since it is so confusing and I also have no reference point to the working of normal sexual human. But I guess I mean asexual as being repulsed by the idea of anything involving the reproductive organs. I still appreciate beauty in girls (but this too I feel I am very picky and looking for someone who is so pretty/beautiful which makes it harder because a girl like that will almost certainly want to still have sex at some point). Like I still want cuddles (clothes on would be preferable), dating, talking, maybe kissing but idk just feel like I could never ever have sex it is just too wierd/gross for me (also I've never had any sexual abuse or what not that I am aware of but I also have been ace for a long time just didn't realize it until lately because is is the least understood/least common orientation)

Also, love me some Todd in the show Bojack horseman as he is ace