recieving help with an enema from mom

I am a 36 year old married man with 3 kids. I suffer from "occassional" constipation and use enemas for relief from time to time. there is basically no personal space in my small home and its a little hard to comprehend, but its not easy creating the time or space to give myself an enema. My wife is basically adverse to anything anal and has told me that i should see a physician if i am so constipated that i need to resort to the use of an enema. Anyway, this kind of thing runs in my family on the male side. One morning, after being constipated for several days, i took my enema bag over to my mother's house (my inlaws were down for the holidays at mine), and told her that i was going to use her restroom to get some relief. After 30 questions of interrogation by my mother, she told me that she was going to help me with my constipation. She told me to lay on the bed, ect, ect, ect, and to make a long story short gave me a thorough cleansing. Here's the problem. I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it in a kind of sexual way and that really bothers me. I really feel like a pervert. Any thoughts anyone?

Anon,

Let me state up front that I'm not a mental health professional and this is only my opinion.

That said, you need to look at what part of it you "enjoyed".

You might have enjoyed the fact that someone (a woman in particular) took more than a passing interest in your discomfort and seeing it taken care of. The fact that your wife has this aversion to "anything anal" means that this was something you may also considered "dirty" so there were already some sexual connections inside your mind.

Another thing you need to consider is perhaps the enema tube simply stimulated your prostate. Take a look at the following websites about the subject:

http://www.mypleasure.com/education/sex ... ostate.asp

http://www.prostate-stimulation.com/

http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=n ... f+prostate

(Google results were included just to show how common this is)

As you can see, stimulation of the prostate is often a very pleasurable thing. If you reacted sexually to this stimulation, then you had a natural reaction to the stimulation. The fact that your mother was involved was understandably disturbing to you. You need to understand that you were not reacting to her, but to the act itself.

Are you a pervert?

In my opinion - no. You were simply a male having a standard reaction to physical stimulation.

Should your mother help you with future enemas?

Again, my opinion is no. This is not something natural and it sounds like you were uncomfortable with that idea to begin with and your mother basically bullied you into allowing her involvement. I agree with your wife that you need to see a doctor about this, but I also suggest you learn how to do this on your own.

I hope this was of some help.

Wow:

I feel a little better already,

Thanks

Don't tell a girlfriend you did/do that.

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Starfish wrote:Don't tell a girlfriend you did/do that.

1:They're married, and the wife already knows that they have to have an enema once in a while due to constipation.

2:If the girlfriend can't deal with hearing the fact that this person has a serious constipation issue, that requires an enema to relieve, maybe it's time to look for a new girlfriend.

You dig?

fomori4hire wrote:

Starfish wrote:Don't tell a girlfriend you did/do that.

1:They're married, and the wife already knows that they have to have an enema once in a while due to constipation.

2:If the girlfriend can't deal with hearing the fact that this person has a serious constipation issue, that requires an enema to relieve, maybe it's time to look for a new girlfriend.

You dig?

I think what starfish meant was dont tell ur wife u enjoyed what ur mother did...but i do think ur wife can be alittle more supportive...and its normal tht u enjoyed it but i also think it should be the last tin u let ur mom help u with it

This may be off topic, but...

Ever tried Metamucil pills? That's what I take. They're safer than enemas. Plus, they're much easier, so you won't need another person to help you (like your mom!)

On the subject of repeated enemas; I think that if you really need them on a regular basis because you are seriously constipated you should take a look at your diet. Serious constipation is indicative of dietary deficiencies that you should address fairly quickly as, over the long term, it could set you up for bowel cancer.
As for experiencing pleasure from having something up your ass, well it`s a normal physical responce to stimulation. If your wife won`t join in do it yourself, maybe in the shower or bath where you can clean up easily. You can always use your fingers (cut your nails first though ), or anything else the right size and shape. Just remeber that hygene comes first (or maybe second in this case )!

On the subject of repeated enemas; I think that if you really need them on a regular basis because you are seriously constipated you should take a look at your diet. Serious constipation is indicative of dietary deficiencies that you should address fairly quickly as, over the long term, it could set you up for bowel cancer.
As for experiencing pleasure from having something up your ass, well it`s a normal physical responce to stimulation. If your wife won`t join in do it yourself, maybe in the shower or bath where you can clean up easily. You can always use your fingers (cut your nails first though ), or anything else the right size and shape. Just remember that hygene comes first (or maybe second in this case )!