Swimsuit Fetish problems?

Hi guys, I actually created this account solely because I've been "struggling" with this for quite a while you could say, and I decided to finally ask for opinions.

Well... Ever since young, I have had this... sexual liking for swimsuits you could say. Ah screw it, call it a fetish. Till now I have it, I admit I find girls wearing swimsuits or latex more sexually attractive than naked girls, in regards to porn and the like.

And I always thought that it would just remain that, something inside my room. But then one day, a female friend of mine asked me out to go swimming with her at a small water park. I was against it at first, because I was worried about me doing something I would regret, but she convinced me to go along. And I found out I actually did enjoy playing in water parks, the feeling of just relaxing in the water and enjoying thrills (over here, there isn't any theme parks except for one, which is super expensive, so yeah). I suppose my liking for water stuff kinda split into something I find enjoyable, and a secret fetish for swimsuits.

So yeah, a while later, another friend mentioned interest in going swimming, so I managed to convince her to go get a new swimsuit and go swimming after a while. I admit, this friend of mine was quite attractive, and I did have a liking for her for a while, so you can imagine how happy I was, to say.

After going with a few more friends swimming (all female, and almost all of them were intended one-on-ones, I can swear I did absolutely nothing to them), then something struck me. In the end, most of my female friends that I found attractive, I ended up trying to convince them to go swimming, half for the sake of seeing them in a swimsuit, and half because I genuinely found it fun, and theres nothing much exciting over here. And I realized that when I go with them once, and then they don't feel like going anymore, or want more people to come along (of which at least one of them is another guy), I feel quite disappointed, or in the case of getting another guy along, disgusted at the idea of another guy coming along. Also, when I think of the possibility of them going with someone else, there is this indescribable feeling deep inside that hurts, something along the lines of being betrayed, envying, being jealous of the other guy, I don't know.

... Do I have a problem? I haven't done anything to anyone (yet, I don't know), but for some reason, one of the first things which come to mind when I make decent friends with a girl who I find someone attractive would be whether they would like to go swimming (also, how cute they would look in a swimsuit), and I realize I have more of a tendency to ask people to go nowadays than before. And this worries me greatly, I wonder whether it would eventually alert people or make them feel uncomfortable around me. (Keep in mind, I don't ask them constantly, in fact, usually when they say no the first time, I would stop, unless they bring up the interest, although I think I might subconciously bring up the topic subtly sometimes...)

Thanks guys.

Lotta people find girls in one-piece bathing suits (which I assume you mean or coulda said bikinis) especially attractive. That's not unusual. Your reactions to it with the one time only sorta deal is a little strange, as is your imagining of them going with another guy. So it sounds less about the swimsuit and more about something else. If you're not buying girls' swimsuits to touch and wear or feel against your own naked body masturbating I wouldn't say you have a fetish for them.

It almost seems like you're trying to recreate some idyllic past experience with asking girls to go swimming. Like you had a fun time in your past and are now trying to recreate it, or fancied someone who you saw swimming one day like, something like that. It could be you have some lost memory of a positive experience you can't quite remember except that you were swimming and she had a swimsuit on. So now are fixating on what details you do remember but mistaking the swimming or swimsuit components for the main thing, whereas a bigger component has been forgotten.

Thanks for the quick reply!

Well, I really wish that I could believe that, but... ... Well... The thing is... I do admit, the idea of having sex with a girl in a swimsuit underwater or something does thrill me more than regular sex (although I admit, I'm still a virgin).

The thing is, when I invite a girl out for swimming, my brain jumps between "It'll be fun! Yeah, I like those places, its relaxing, and we can do something other than just sit and eat dinner" and "Damn I get to see her in a swimsuit she'll look hot" and after that feeling guilty because I just thought of a FRIEND that way...

I have absolutely no clue what could be the reason behind the one time deal thing, I only know that I have had many, many dreams, where my friends would go off and have fun (going swimming was a topic of like 90% of those dreams), and I'll be left behind, and they'll come back and tell me how fun it was. Also aggrevating that is the fact that I had to go for an overnight event once, missing out a time when my friends went to a beach, which included my crush/girlfriend/exgirlfriend (in that order) who is too shy to ever go swimming, and they ended up playing in the water (no one wore a swimsuit, but... yeah), and my envy meter went off the chart. Yeah, she is the one person I could never convince to go swimming, and the only one to get annoyed at me for asking.

As for it possibly being based on a past experience... Well, the first memory that stimulated me greatly was when my family went swimming with a few of our family friends' families, and I ended up accompanying this other girl, and we ended up playing in the water (harmless playing), but she looked really cute in her bikini even though she was a few years younger (keep in mind, I was only around 12 I think). So... Yeah... I don't think its that.

The main thing I worry about, really, is the possibility of objectifying my female friends as "girls who are willing to go swimming with me and look cute", which I really don't want to do, because I honestly treasure them as my friends and even potential love partners, not because of this, but because of their company and their personality.

EDIT: I guess I admit one of my biggest fears is also that one day I might lose control when we go swimming, and end up doing something I might regret, like touching them inappropriately or advancing on them, something that has never happened, but I can actually see that the possibility of that happening is not 0%... Although I admit that I would really like it if she did it to me instead... Sigh.

Well, if it helps resist the urge, touching someone sexually in an unwelcome way is criminal. (waggles finger) So don't do that.

As to the rest, everyone has something they're especially interested in. That you worry about objectifying friends or girls in general says I wouldn't worry about that. It's when you stop worrying about objectifying people that you start objectifying people.

Could be that you're simply more comfortable in swimming enviroments much as nudists are around other nude people. It's a social equilizer like. No more fashion contest, everything hangs out. Literally. And when swimming much of your bod is hidden so any insecurities vanish and you're better able to socialize and flirt.

So don't touch unless invited to and you have nothing to worry about.

That... Is a good point there... The possibility of me just being more comfortable in a swimming environment being a good main explanation as to why I'm so "obsessed" with getting my female friends to go swimming... Its hard to explain, but that actually made sense to me... I still dislike going with guys swimming though.

... Is it okay to enjoy seeing your female friends in swimsuits, because they look seriously cute/pretty/sexy in them? Or is that bad of me to see my friends that way...?

But seriously, thanks so much for listening to me man, its been something that has been hitting me harder as of late... Kinda makes me feel like I'm taking advantage of them...

I'm guessinp you are a bit younger but don't feel too guilty about checking out how your friends look in a swimsuit.