i got a question....

ok, about 3 months after i started having sex, i had to stop because me and my boyfriend were seperated from college, then about a month later, we had sex again, and i had tightened up, and good bit, it hurt at least two times we had sex after that one month of being apart, once we were back together.

well, then college came back into the picture, and he was far away from me this time, due to me taking it easy and saving money at a community college. well i have been using dildos, which i thought were the same size as him, but last time we had intercourse, he said that i was a little bit looser which made the sex less pleasurable, and it made it diffucult for him to cum until i moved my kegel muscles and my vagina tightened up enough for it to feel like always for him.

my question is now, is all hope lost? will i be this size forever? or is it possbile if i stop using things larger than him, will my vagina shrink back to a size thats completely pleasurable to him.

any thoughts might help, thank you.

First...it sounds stupid..but, I'd try to relax...I mean as yourself. The more stress you feel, the harder it will be to have sex.

Take into account...like a list of all the things that have happened since you have been with him. This will give you an idea of any causes that are environmental. You can exiamine any stress areas and possibl;e correct them.

How are feeling in general? See your MD and let him/her know that you have having problems in this general areas and have physical.

Bodies change all the time. For a worrier, I can't say stop worrying. BUt, there is alternatives.

If you are to tight? During those times, masterbate and spend a lot of time in physical contact. Bare yourself and lie among warm comfortable blankets and try to sleep.

How is you sleep? Are you dreaming?

IF I dream and realize I am...turn and continue and wake up...I feel better.

Dreaming is called Rapid Eye Movement and is very important with stress: REM's

A sleep cycle is drowsy...very light sleep (You mind is relaxing and going it's own direction)...Then, you dream...then go into deep sleep...go back up to dreams and very light sleep and repeat it like a wave.

Bad sleep. You are so exhausted that you are knocked out and a moment later it's 8 hours. You'll feel tired and uncomfortable. Lightsleep, thoughout the night of tossing and turning, is obviously not good.

THey say a complet cycle is doing this wave and..not remembering your dream?

Not,me? I want to dream..wake up and continue that dream. If it's a bad dream?..get up have cig opr drink some milk. Icecream is good. Get you mind offf tha dream...go back to sleep and dream something else.

Most important is honesty with your partner and, keep sexuality going (masterbation) and cuddling!

THe problem might stop and you might feel better

Stress seems the key!

But, what do I know?

Entangled

ah, cool thanks, i think that will help

No problem!

Any other ideas form others?

Come on!

We don't bite...to hard...that is?

We need a medic site!

Like war, we wage our ideas on this site and get knocked in the teath!

"Medic!"

Go to the site that's "medic" and get an IV with Saline solution and a lot of Ativan!

Now, you are ready to conquere the world!

To bad we don't have that site!

(kidding)

Check back with me and take two Ativan and call me in the morning!

Kidding!