Premature ejaculation: Are there women who orgasm too fast?

It's worth a shot I guess, before I leave the human race to join the tree people in some porn-less forest out there. Does this phenomenon even exist in the world?

Having truly suffered from PE for all my life, I can honestly say that it has thoroughly ruined the experience/existence. Everything from my confidence level (and all related attachments such as employment, friendships, communication and relationships), to my ability to derive even the most basic pleasures from life, have all been completely leveled.

This problem is hard-wired. I've had sex in every mood, mentality, state-of-mind and temperament. I fired Doctor Kegel's after his dumb ass $#%^ never worked... I've exercised, I've tried numbing creams, drugs, whatever - nothing works.

Ladies, if you're in a relationship with some guy who cums too fast and doesn't like sex after a while, it's because it's become a pure nightmare. When another guy (or gal) advises you to leave him for someone who cares, know well that this new guy isn't treating you right because he's going out of his way to do it, it was just luck of the draw. His advantage, but nothing special here.

What makes this worse is the cruelty and disdain shown the PE guy. Maybe we're in the wrong for this. Maybe we should have accepted being alone and never got involved with you. Or maybe it's just the ones I've had the misfortune to try with. Having to find out I've been cheated on time after time... having to deal with the obvious clues that I'm being cheated on... being ridiculed after the facts and subsequently left. Having your family consider some gayness in the program and dropping hints and little inquiries to boot. Good times.

Another warm 'n fuzzy facet to PE is the no pity aspect. I don't say all of this for pity's sake, but I don't think that's up for grabs anyway. Family likes to smile at this. Friends like to tear down with this. Girlfriends like to reject with this and so on. And we're left alone to try and figure out why we've become such heartless creeps. Orgasm criminals mainly. To most guys, weak d-bags without balls.

Because after all, as every other poster who claims to have knowledge on PE indicate, this is just a mental problem that's easy to fix. Nothing is more infuriating to hear, at least for me, outside of being reminded of how "you're broken" by someone you only want to make happy. So ladies, it's not that we don't care, in fact, what hurts a lot is that we kind of understand why you're leaving but wanted to help so badly - but it's like fighting a losing battle that nobody can see or cares to talk about. And now to deal in solitude with the prospect that our basic mission here on planet Earth - procreating - just might not come to fruition, is a tough thing to bear. You know...

So before I head on, any too quick females need a speed date

I cum really quickly, I can cum as soon as the guy enters me, I would go on a date with you for sure, however you should note that I am a sex addict, and would want a repeat performance once you had recovered.

AmyUK wrote:I cum really quickly, I can cum as soon as the guy enters me, I would go on a date with you for sure,

...Amy you sound like a dream, and you're British. Uhhm, yes please.

however you should note that I am a sex addict, and would want a repeat performance once you had recovered.

You can think of me like a prizefighter.

PM me for tea

There is no doubt that having pe must suck... Honestly, any woman who would leave a guy over it isnt worth the guys time anyways. It sounds to me that sex would be the most important part of that relationship, which is not exactly a building block for a successful relationship.

I can honestly say I do envy people with pe. I have the opposite, where it can take me a hour, if it even happens, which is much worse... Would you rather get off too fast, or not at all?

On topic.... My girlfriend gets off in 2 minutes, fortunately for me though she keeps going, usually ending in her getting off 10 + times in a hour.... Fills me with resentment though to be truthful.

dsfan wrote:There is no doubt that having pe must suck... Honestly, any woman who would leave a guy over it isnt worth the guys time anyways. It sounds to me that sex would be the most important part of that relationship, which is not exactly a building block for a successful relationship.

What up dsfan, I agree, there are a few girls who are cool like that out there without a doubt. It's just been my path to meet closet sadists I guess.

dsfan wrote:I can honestly say I do envy people with pe. I have the opposite, where it can take me a hour, if it even happens, which is much worse... Would you rather get off too fast, or not at all?

Hehe, it's all relative isn't it bro. I don't think it's too far of a stretch to understand the frustration a reversal of fate would bring either. There's a solution out there to pan back center it's just ripening. When it does Ima gonna wreck it James Brown style. That is what's up.

dsfan wrote:On topic.... My girlfriend gets off in 2 minutes, fortunately for me though she keeps going, usually ending in her getting off 10 + times in a hour.... Fills me with resentment though to be truthful.

I get that man, keep hope alive. Appreciate the insights...

Sorry I did not mean to make light of your situation, I can imagine it being frustrating on the flip side of my problems.

If its any consolation, im in my mid 20s and found a wonderful smart sexy girl who doesnt care about my problem.

What you could always try saying, is that she excites you to the point that you cant hold it back, you love her so much ( which if its a mental thing sounds about right...? )

Sex isn't everything in a relationship and the girls that aren't with you because of this are stupid.

I can't even have sex because I was molested a couple of times and I have had no trouble getting and keeping dates and even getting married (a married virgin - gasp).

You need to find some better women. They are out there.

It is very different for men and women though. A woman can recover far quicker and many have more than one orgasm compared to the guy anyway. My wife can orgasm very quickly if she wants to, sometimes from just me kissing her breasts, but she doesnt see it as a problem and i dont resent her for it. I guess it is about finding the right person for you.

I am 21 and have been stuck with the same issue for quite sometime. I am happy I came here, emfhaac (may I call you Eh or something for short?) you described my suffering better than I could have. It is brutal. I've had to pretend I didn't like girls to avoid it eventually leading to a sexual moment. There was this one girl, just beautiful. We got a long so great had so much fun and I really did like her, her friends always tried to hook us up and I would not only say I didn't want to but I would have to play the part every day, I did everything to make sure people thought I honestly didn't like her. It sucked 'cause there really weren't any logical reasons not to, we rocked together. I've always picked relationships based on who I think will be the most understanding. And made some regrettable choices. However, luckily (perhaps age played a part) none of my girlfriends made it into a very big deal, at first there was a laugh and some jokes but I explained how seriously hurting i felt about it and they seemed to understand, at times even said they didn't care, but I was so insecure about it I would be the one to blow it out of proportion and eventually push them away... Just another regret to live with :S. I always wished that one of them (only 2 serious relationships really) would just say everything I wanted to hear to make me comfortable. "it's all good, I really don't care, I still like having sex with you 'cause its you, well just laugh about it after if you like or whatever, just know that im not thinking anything rude in my head it is honestly not a big issue for me, it really feels good I love you your the best. lets do some research and figure out how we can make this better for you, maybe theres something we can do together, but right now i want you so please come here baby". Haha ya right, and even if that did happen my insecurities would eventually take they're toll.

Possible solution: (don't get hopes up)

I tried a few things, the numbing cream, the exercise, drugs, illegal drugs and alcohol (worked once, which lead me to thinking that it maybe it is mental, disproved later), been to a specialist, found a girl I was completely comfortable with no anxiety not even a thought.... all failed.

Then I told my brother, and he's like: dude, have you ever tried to just keep going? you gotta just tough it and be a man bro! I'm like nah man not gunna work I lose it, no way i can keep it hard doesn't even feel good HURTS! The desire is completely gone which makes it basically meaningless (actually no pleasuring you're partner, at this point, is probably the most important thing in your life) -another thing, its quite emasculating to know that you've never, and probably will never, make a girl moan. Man I just hated all the boys bsing sex stories, I already had social anxiety those were such awkward moments "please don't ask me please don't ask me" (i couldnt even lie about it without looking like i was embarassed) - BUT! One time, with my gf, I tried to keep going, and I managed to stay erect. It wasn't very physically enjoyable, but the idea of performing was. It felt awkward, none of my body movements felt natural and I was a bit anxious she could tell i was not in rythm, but I asked her later and she said she didnt notice that at all it was just like always. I told my bro this worked, and hes like: "yeah man, thats what you DO. I remember when I was with Tammy I knew that if I ###$ this up I would loose her thatd be IT so I just said ###$ it and kept going, I had to do that a lot in the beginning. Then I remembered talking to my friend a very long time ago and he said that he did that as well.. I forgot about that.. And then my cousin said the same thing, he said he loved cumming quick 'cause: "then i could just cum again and again yeaaa". lol...

I'm not saying this will work, don't get your hopes up (that if you haven't tried this method already). Also I'm 21, and I imagine staying erect at a young age is easier.

Um, I probably won't be having sex for a long time so if you do try this out let me know how it goes?

Take care bro, what you've said has really helped me feel better about this, I'm not exactly sure why, but like I said you explained it better than I could and not being able to fully express to people how much of a bitch this PE curse is, is just as frustrating (jk not even CLOSE).

cya