Do I have an orgasm problem?

I can get an orgasm very easily on my own, I'm a girl. But when I have sex with a guy, I can't. Whether it's oral or just penetration, I just don't get as turned on as I can. It's really starting to bother me, do I have a problem? Can I just not get an orgasm while having sex or oral sex? No one but myself has given me an orgasm. What should I do?

Maybe you have a problem with letting loose when you're with someone else because you feel inhibited. What do you think?

YOU know what hits the spot in masterbation, It dont always in sex ,with some people. Lots of guys an ladies find orgasm better in masterbation than sex , when you get a guy who really does it for you it will happen , dont let it get you down. AS an example in porn films you often see a lady flick the bean in sex , as the none effection sex does nothing for them.

Tension, stress, etc. releases cortisol and cortisol interferes in the release of oxytocin. Among it's many roles, one of the important roles of oxytocin is in the orgasm, especially the female orgasm.

try to relax and just go with it

http://www.antiaging-systems.com/145-oxytocin-love-drug

plenty more articles around if you search for "oxytocin and orgasm"

i think that belongs in the sexual dysfunction section

Yep, moved it here.

If one man is not enough to satisfy you then you may need to try two or even three at a time. Trust me, I've seen it on the internet and it will be just fine...



But seriously, maybe he's not the one. Try a few more guys and see if one really does it for you. There is chemistry, physics, emotions, and lots of other things involved, not to mention his skills. You cannot will yourself to get off on one particular person.

I can only have an orgasm by masturbating, my husband eating me out, or me riding him. Nothing else. I don't know why nor do I know how to fix it!!

if i were you i would try masturbating in front of your husband. and dont let him interfere until you have an orgasm that way he can see what your actual expression is when you have a real orgasm. sometimes its hard to tell if your really making the person feel good or if they are just doing what they think they are supposed to be doing. if that makes sense. essentially we fake it to save face. male and female alike. i have been masturbating since i was 6 years old never knowing that's actually what i was doing until i got older. when i got older i thought that an orgasm was supposed to feel different and more intense then with masturbation. so in the beginning of my sexual history i didn't know that i wasn't having an orgasm through intercourse until on day my boyfriend made me have an orgasm by chance. from that moment on i was able to use whatever guy i was with to have an orgasm because i realized they feel very similar ( orgasm via masturbation or via intercourse). essentially they feel the same. so if your husband can see you having a real orgasm and you break that barrier you can start to be more open to what makes you feel good. and seriously i cant even masturbate in front of my husband but he really wants me to cause its a huge turn on for the guy. but if anything at the very least your getting your husband involved in your quest for an orgasm. then when your comfortable just try to use your husbands body as a tool to have an orgasm. it sounds kinda like your using him in that sense but once you get the physical stuff down the emotional will follow. your also thinking of him cause you dont want to fake it right? or perhaps you could try to masturbate during intercourse. toys aren't a threat no matter what anyone thinks.

I agree with previous poster about not feeling threatened by mastubation or toys, but you have to be able to talk and be open together. My wife loves nothing better than to lie in my arms and masturbate with her fingers or her toy as i hold her and stroke her hair and whisper to her, she has the most intense orgasms and i am happy for her. or she will let me sit and watch her but not touch or she likes me to do the same for her. you have to be totally honest and in tune with one another and trust and never feel threatened.
Try to imagine you are masturbating when you have sex and see how that makes you feel. how often do you masturbate?
Talking is the key to so much and having an understanding partner essential too who doesnt judge whoever you are or whatever you want or need. My wife knows all my secrets and fantasies and I hers too which is partly why it wroks for us so well.
Good luck and take it slow