Another case of retarded ejaculation?

Jeez...I didn't realize so many guys had this issue. Hopefully that doesn't mean it's useless to ask...

Alright, so I didn't ejaculate for the first time until I was about, 15? I had been trying to for probably months to a year, because, well I was a boy in puberty. You know that story. Anyway, it finally happened after probably an hour or so, and I was very shocked. So from the beginning I've had a hard time reaching orgasm.

Now, I've been sexually active with my wife (my only real sexual partner) since I was about 17. We didn't start out with sex, but we moved through the bases. And I have always, always, had trouble reaching orgasm quickly. Only twice have I climaxed via oral stimulation, and it took awhile. I find myself able to engage in intercourse for at least an hour every time, and the current record is around 2.5 hours.

I'm very attracted to my wife, but I simply don't feel much during intercourse. It feels warm, and obviously lubricated, but the stimulation doesn't feel like it's building to a climax and then bam! I am moving so fast, trying to orgasm so hard, that the end product is really more of a chore than a satisfying release.


Here's the twist though.

My wife over the past 12-18 months has been working through sexual abuse that occurred from around the ages of 5-8. This, combined with her antidepressant (celexa) and her birth control, have DESTROYED her once amazing libido. It depresses me to even think of what we once had in terms of a sex life. She is now hardly interested, and sometimes intimacy can trigger her going to a bad place. I think this has only complicated my own personal dysfunction. I worry that she hates our lovemaking, and she's waiting for it to be over. She herself has said that she wishes it was more of a 20 minutes deal than a 60 minute deal.

As far as fixing this goes, that's where you guys can hopefully help me. I'm not sure she'll be up to any intimacy exercises, and I don't know what to do.

Please, anyone who has advice or experience, help me out here.

-Derik

Anyone?

Totally the opposite of what I'm going for. Nice try, spam.

Hello,

I know how you feel, I have RE since always and I was only able to ejaculate in wet dreams. I Found this list in the web:

Medications sometimes used to treat delayed ejaculation include:
• Amantadine (Symmetrel)
• Bupropion (Wellbutrin, others)
• Buspirone (BuSpar, Vanspar)
• Cyproheptadine (Periactin)
• Yohimbine

Do you already tried one of these?