My friend who I plan to marry likes trans and

My friend was abused and has interest in ladies with a pennis.
My friend now for a couple of years has an interest in shemales. And so far as I know has always liked porn including porn with shemales. When I have been with him I have noticed he likes looking other women but that is sometimes a little bit too much for me (he says he likes to compare the women and confirm himself I am the best (?). He asked me for instance once we were just “back together” why I did not asked the girl I talked for a minute in the street, whether I asked her also if she was still free that night. He likes porno a lot, a close friend have seen it once or twice but certainly not regularly but my friend does. I have seen porno a couple of times with some difficulty it is rough to see for me but could get use to it from time to time.

Another fact, after four years of marriage -so far I get to know- (he is now divorced) and preparing himself to a business trip, he started compiling shemale information. For instance, all shemale information possible (bars, streets, places to meet, etc) and this all before this departure to a very well known "prostitution" side of the world. He's always had a healthy sexual appetite. But he was abused when he was a teenager by a male family member a little bit older than he (several times: he was for instance asked to kiss the pennies of this person and maybe other things he did not dare to tell me, ...).
As far as I know, he regularly looked at porn sites as well as shemale sites and sex date sites. I do not know he if likes to dress in woman's clothing, but at a certain period when he was little he liked it. I do no limit myself to parameters and am open-minded would an average man have such a thing in his sexual history life?
The latest occasion I discovered something it was (among several shemale sites he was subscribed to, sex dating sites and general dating sites) when he showed interest in a shemale, this person was rather masculine looking (for me as a woman it was disgusting) and he was giving a challenging comment on his/her position (laying with a vibrator on his/her anus) in an extasis position (it was the face of a man with long hair and lipstick wearing a sexy bra but recognizable to me that it was a man).
Other shemales he dated when we were not together, I do not know how they looked (I think he told me he dated 3 when he was abroad, but in reality, it might have been many more? 10?) Back in the country he had had maybe also a couple of other shemale sexual relations (I found one information in which the shemale was taking about ass play that night) Is this searching for a woman with a penis something that I should talk to a specialist about? Please I need help to know what a man would do? All all men some time in their life under such a thing?
What I tell is all too personal, but I feel I have to tell someone. He likes anal sex and I enjoy that, in fact I enjoy being together in all ways a lot because I love him ?. Only these facts I mentioned are very disturbing for me even though he says he stops as now we are together (but when he was married he wouldn’t even in his early years of marriage). I just need some opinions. Another fact, he likes not only anal sex with me, but he likes to have it himself.
I really don't want to cause a big thing with us because I love him very much, but when I think about my future this is hard to bite, and I do not think I can trust that he would stop. Or trust he is not disturbed somehow. Or twisted? He has been into shemales for more than ten years (so far as "I" know). Please advise me, thank you.

Besides during the time being together and confronting him with the facts, he had to admit, but I know they were more; so in that he is not really being honest with me. I had a previous experience with a man who was always honest but not affective as he is, I think that is a binding emotional feeling for me that is gives me a lot of affection (hughs and caresses and shows empathy -besides he is smart and brilliant in his career). Are most of men always looking forward? I do not have a problem with trying new things experience new emotions but this is blocking me a lot. He is so lovely with me, but so he does with any other female or shemale or ?
I guess the good feeling I have together blinds me very much and I do not arrive to make a decision and decide whether this is a twisted relation or a twisted man that would not be worth for a life time compromise. Help please

Hi, Fun2bewith! It's possible for anyone to have a fetish, but if he cheats on you or does inappropriate stuff with other people, I can see why you're worried. I'm not sure if this is due to his abuse, there's no way to be sure, really. Has he had professional help to deal with that?
If you feel like he isn't loyal to you and he may never be, than maybe you need to talk to him about it or decide if you can be with him for the rest of your life. Is he open to therapy or talking about your feelings and your relationship?

Did u plan to marry with yr friend after knowing the problem ? Or that was you idea before ? If you accept it and is not problem for you then is not reason to avoid marriage, but if you think that in the future will not like that than THINK TWICE!