ED, overthought sex and now can't stop!

Hello everyone,

About 2 months ago, I failed to get an erection with a woman (I'm 25), and took it pretty hard. Never happened to me before, didn't know that it was a common thing to have happen to guys, espeically when they're nervous (which I was). Anyway, inscouring the internet, I read about porn/masturbation addiction and decided to quit using porn and masturbating (would do it about once a day before). After inconistent success in the ensuing weeks, I ended up going into a depression, so I started seeing a therapist. He would ask about the pornography and what turns me on. This is what brings me here...

Ever since I started thinking about what turns me on and why, it's almost like I don't know. I would be turned on by all kinds of different things before (T&A, legs, the thought of being inside someone, cuddling, various scenarios), and I still know I like those things, but it's like thinking about it has stopped it from leading to sexual arousal. I can still get an erection manually, but I'm not 'instinctively' aroused by my fantasies anymore. As a matter of fact, I think I'm thinking about it so much, that I don't truly 'fantasize' anymore, but am trying to build a scenario in my mind of what turns me on. Before, it was just so natural. A thought of a sexual situation popped into my head, got an erection, felt good, continued. Now, seeing things that used to turn me on aren't having that effect, and I can't get an erection anymore, and I'm afraid I'll never have sex again!

Has anyone dealt with this? If I stop thinking about sex and erections (damn near impossible lately), will it go back to being natural? Can someone accidentally permanently disconnect their sex drive? Does anyone have a good explanation of what exactly the sexual arousal process is, and whether it's unconscious or conscious? Some say it's a natural instinct and drive, but it's obviously more complicated than that, and now that I've thought about it, I don't know how I'll ever stop!

Hi, ab1234cd! Maybe you should ask a doc if there might be anything going on with you. Intrusive thoughts can be associated with OCD, but we can't give you a diagnosis here and I'm not a professional or anything.
Well, maybe if you try to stop thinking about sex, things will get back to normal eventually.

That is nice but herbal pills are still a better option.

I agree with the above post. Herbal pills is an alternative solution for erectile dysfunction. There are many ED pills that comes out in the market today, but it'll be safe if you buy and take it with doctors advise.