Psychological impotence

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The men often met impotence generated is psychological, not medical reasons. This may be one-off “embarrassment”. If the causes are deep and serious, it can become a “systematic failure”. According to the psychosomatic theory, a very serious psychological reasons for acting for a long time, can lead to consequences relating to the medical field already, rather than psychology. And it is clear that before this is better not to bring.
Ideally, the reasons leading to “embarrassment”, should be analyzed in time by a man, a psychologist and a physician. But in reality this almost never happens. Therefore, this article resembles a kind of popular book on “How to make a heart surgery on a kitchen knife with the help of his wife and Tiffany’s.” But we hope that this article will help men to be more attentive to their health and in time to see a specialist.

Causes and types of psychogenic impotence – a huge amount! Even experts with world-renowned with difficulty deduce laws because exceptions in this matter more than rules. Most often, we in our practice work with clients, for their failures in their sexual lives, watched two of psychogenic impotence:

1. The so-called “Debut” problem – a failure when you try first sexual intimacy with a new woman.
2. impotence as a psychological reaction to the need to use a condom.

In view of the foregoing, we are not trying to deduce the correlation between the type of impotence and its causes. Especially, do not consider the typical “model” impotence and do not give advice. Subject too variably and requires an individual approach. We give you the material for self-examination in a very simplified form: an indicative list of the psychological causes of impotence. We will be grateful for any additions to this list. And we’ll be happy if this list will help someone to understand themselves and what is happening. And since these materials self-awareness in time to see a specialist for help.

* Too strong current or accumulated fatigue. CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) – a common problem, especially the inhabitants of the megalopolis. And the ultimate reason situational impotence.
* Too much stress. In light stress, sexual arousal on the contrary, may increase. Improved and desire and potency. Many people know how to make love well after the “adrenaline”. But the moderate stress already affects sexuality. There is a general adaptation syndrome, which described the Hans Selye. Included are the protective mechanisms of the body and psyche: the struggle (for example, aggression or eliminating the causes of stress), the flight (eg, avoidance of stressful situations), stupor (for example, the intention to wait out the situation). Sexual responses are rare. Even more strongly violates the potency is too strong stress (distress) – stress that the person is no longer cope. Adaptation of very disturbed and a good potency can not count. But the measure of force stress each person individually.
* Resentment at the partner (or girls and women in general). The foregoing careless word may not only kill but also to make impotent. The same applies to the visual appeal and the behavior of women – they can also cause injury and subsequent psycho-physiological reactions. Our country is not very high culture psychosexual relationship, so the wave is likely that weak erections or lack of potency may be triggered any breach of etiquette on the part of women. Grievances may be real (as it is social and cultural issues) and imaginary (as it is the individual psychological problem). In this and in another case, a psychologist – not superfluous.
* The psychological trauma of a sexual nature. The situation caused a peak or accumulated experience, which people did not deliver. Sexual intercourse associatively linked with this traumatic situation. Man unwittingly “loops” on it. The desire to avoid further psychological pain leads to a subconscious avoidance of sex, and physiologically to a weakening of potency.
* Fears or phobias in men, leading to acute stress. For example, a woman recounts a man on the antennae protruding into the vagina of their IUD (real cases) and then a man going through stress and his “scary” to have sexual intercourse with this woman, it is absorbed experiences that will not cause a protruding antennae him physical injury.
* Hypochondria – too much absorbed in his inner feelings, especially negative about their health. Occurs social hypochondria, when a man painfully focused on their social disadvantage. Hypochondria in life can lead to extreme self-centeredness in sex. Focusing exclusively on a rarely contributes to potency.
* Gipermotivetion. Too strong desire for the desired goal of reducing the effectiveness of activities up to a complete breakdown (Yerkes-Dodson Law). If a man wants a girl too, the woman or the situation too excited, then chances are “burnout”. Many men know the situation when they so wish, that the potency does not occur or weakens. Furthermore, excessive anxiety can cause a strong psycho-physiological stress. The situation is even worse.
* Conscious or unconscious aversion to a particular woman (personal, physical, social, sexual, etc.) The myth that a man has an erection occurs “on everything that moves” do not correspond to reality. There, both biological and psychological preferences.
* An overdose of alcohol and drugs. Depends on the individual tolerance (resistance) to these substances.
* Too low or high self-esteem. Self-criticism or self-glorification. In this case the man is not busy woman and do not even have sex, and themselves. Potency may deteriorate because not everyone there is potency “for himself”.
* Elevated levels of neuroticism, anxiety. May be accompanied by differences not only mood but also of sexual desire, but as a consequence – unstable potency. Sometimes autoaggression – aggression itself. In this case, a man and a woman is not busy and do not even have sex, and themselves.
* Overly competitive or anxiety compare themselves with other men. Result – decrease in potency.
* The conflict between the values of education in the family (romantic love, sexual fidelity, etc.) and the reality of sexual relations with various women. Alternatively, improper upbringing in the family, deprivation of sexualdevelopment of men, suppression of sexual desires.
* Verbal or physical aggression emanating from her partner. Some men are on the contrary exciting, but the majority of the decrease of attraction and potency. The same applies to the studied indifference on the part of partner.
* Sexual satiety (fullness). Spermatogenesis did not keep pace with the frequency of coitus. Or a man accustomed to a very strong sexual stimuli. Normal sexual situation he was no longer excites. For example, only amateurs porn and group sex have difficulties with potency in the usual “boring” situation of sex alone with a woman, and even without the TV.
* Too big break in sexual relationships – sexual deprivation. For example, a long enforced isolation: hospital, prison, office, etc. Particularly negative effect on the potency of this mature men and elderly.
* Sexual weakness during or after the general somatic diseases. Sometimes reduction of potency is an indirect sign of the struggle of the organism with the disease. On a good potency simply lacks sufficient strength.

Inappropriate sexual stimuli:

1. Strange and unfamiliar stimuli or lack of the usual familiar stimuli. Sexuality is not only instinctive but also conditional reflex. Man can get used to a certain type of woman, her stature, appearance, behavior, even the smell. Erection occurs precisely at these signs as a result of learning body. A classic example – syndrome “impotence faithful husbands, when they first try to diversify their sexual life having sex with another. Overtaking their impotence – not God’s punishment for treason and not a tragic accident, but a natural result of accumulated conditioned reflex too limited sexual situation. May be unusual strength or weakness of sexual stimuli or environment (for example, an elegant bed on the floor in a room with a pool or a dirty staircase in “Khrushchev”). However, in most cases, regular positive reinforcement potency is normalized by itself. the variety in sex is desirable, but it is reasonable limits. They are very individual, their mind sets man himself.
2. Unpleasant stimuli. For example, unacceptable for psychological values of types of sex. Antipathy to the partner (already mentioned). The conscious or unconscious refusal to have sex in the presence of strangers, and (or) unpleasant people. An unpleasant situation, for example, the mixed smell of cat urine and the child in the room (case report).
3. A separate case of unpleasant and (or) unusual incentives for many men is the use of condoms. Presentetion reason not to use these products are unconvincing. Actual cases of allergy to latex hypoallergenic negligible. In sizes of condoms is quite wide. Impotence is the use of condoms is not always, but mostly psychogenic in nature, as a reaction to an unpleasant or unusual stimulus. And as to the subconscious fears not to extend its genotype by breeding. In other words, the desire for offspring.

The men themselves often talk about that “their friend” – it is “independent entity”. In the penis derives a certain “own independent life.” And often there are times when he “decides” all for a man who want and who do not want anyone to get up on … and on anyone to get up. Human preferences may diverge from the “preferences of the penis. Maybe “terrible mymru” want, but the beautiful and not stirred … In other words, there are man unconscious physiological processes that influence the emergence and stability of erection. Which, to be analyzed individually.

Where to start if you want to try to understand yourself?
Try to imagine this metaphor of self: “A conversation with a friend.

Calm down, concentrate and think: what is “not like” you and that you did not like … member? It is always a very specific reason, not “general”. These are the very features of most (though not all!) Men. Analyze What (or who) do not like him. Do not you and him! After all, for it does not happen trifling reasons for impotence. Any little thing is important! Maybe you did not expect to find an ugly body under sexy lingerie? Maybe you did not like that your girl has admitted to you of treason? Maybe you’re not accustomed to female sex-haircuts or vice versa, is not expected to face untidy woman? Maybe you do not like the smell? Maybe your “dream” for too long she drank tea and ate, talking about life and myself, and when “ripe” (about six hours to eight), then you have already “burned out”? Or she is too active and tries to bite and scratch? Maybe it is “too” pretty, but you get used to women easier. Maybe you have been offered, in your subjective opinion, perverted forms of sex? Or is it you did not notice, and is centered on himself? Or is it selfish sex? Or she likes to condoms? Or she is very beautiful and sexy man, and you then do not compete? And so on …

Argued that the statistical majority of men (not all) of unpretentious eating and sex. In other words, will eat anything, just would have been hearty, and engage in sex with anyone, if only available. It’s not quite true. This category of hungry men. Hunger, however, may be motivated by neurosis. The rest (much larger) category men selectively and in food and in women (so very parallel – sexy and food instincts are very similar in their mechanisms). And these men have a preference. And this is important! If your a member of “do not want” (not you and your members), then do not! Treat his wishes, the reluctance to understand and cherished. Do not make him “work” because sex is not work, but fun. Give yourself time to relax. EPA of its “inner critic”. Do not be surprised what happens, do not worry, do not prick yourself, and do not be angry … Think of our list (perhaps it is not full and you will find something new, his). Ask yourself and him – WHY?? And you will discover the answer. OH tell! After all, your own member was not an enemy to you, as friend and advisor.

But remember that such introspection is necessary, but only the first step to getting rid of psychogenic impotence. Better not to risk his men and completeness of these materials introspection time to apply to a psychologist and a doctor.

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Hello,
Psychologically induced impotence is the most common kind, and more than not has a deeper mental problem attached to it that often includes anxiety and depression, as they both cannot happen in the brain while an erection is had. Since it is so widespread, there are a number of effective cures for psychological impotence because the causes themselves are extremely varied and range from a single negative sexual experience that leaves a lasting effect on the man, or any number of contributing factors that can cause anxiety and pull the focus away from the act of sex.

Thanks