female can't orgasm without porn...please read

Thanks for the reply. I actually have sexual addiction issues that cause me to be unable to be satisfied with long term relationships with one partner. My husband is a good and attentive lover, but for me, being faithful is an issue, even when it's just secret porn that I am cheating with. It's an emotional thing. I am always looking to satisfy this sexual need. There have been times in my life when I was doing really well spiritually, and haven't needed the porn, or even been obsessive about sex and relationships, but when I am stressed or not doing what I need to do the stay spiritually fit, I begin to slide back into the same old behaviors.

I think it's good that you have some understanding of what is fuelling your desire to look at porn. Have you considered trying to work through this emotional need, possibly with a therapist? Maybe you could learn to control it? Or find an outlet that is healthier for you?

I think being stressed-out tests us all. Why do you think being spiritually fit has helped you in the past? Is this something that could help you now?

My solution to this problem was to set up my laptop and camera. Then my partner and I had sex while watching ourselves on the TV screen. It was the ultimate couple porn and the risque feeling only adds to your climax.

I like your solution Amalthea – it’s creative and fun.

a very imaginative solution above I agree. I went a step further with a partner and she went upstairs and we both had laptops and cameras and watched each other which was very erotic.

Porn is a very personal thing, my ex gf liked to watch it either with me or alone, but like anythnig else in life it can become addictive. we are all different (thankfully) and enjoy different things. As long as this doesnt take over you life its ok, but you do need to try and find out why you turn down a real offer for an online experience, that is not usual. Porn is sually as well as sex in a relationship not instead of.

I hope you find your way through this one

i am 26, i have always masterbated but also able to have an orgasm during sex with or without clitoral stimulation. of course with makes the process faster and usually much stronger... over the last year, maybe even two ive become more addicted to porn... it went from regular porn to porn that previously i would have NEVER watched. and now i need just to reach orgasm. my husband is also addicted to porn... i find myself searching the history and masterbating to what he watched and got off to. and then i give him a hard time about it. not to blame him but that's really how it started, he was less and less interested in sex with me and more and more interested in porn.. especially once we gained access to the internet. he would and still does turn me down to watch porn after i fall asleep. so in retaliation i felt like ok two can play this game... so every chance i got i would quickly stream porn select the one for that minute.. scroll to the nastiest part i could find, and within probably 60 seconds get my orgasm.. and now im mad at him if he dont have sex with me but i feel like ive ruined my sex life, because when he finally does "give in" and yes thats how i feel... like i had to pressure him into actually wanting sex with me... so i feel like he was forced so that doesnt help, but even with finger or vibrator stimulation i just cant get off. i want to stop watching porn and masterbating altogether... im hoping that will help me get back to normal, i also hope hell do the same with me..

"how a man would react to an intelligent female who seems suffer from porn dependence. " Believe me they will understand more then Buda understands religion... They should be very very very very very very understanding.

As for the orgasm only with porn.. That might be a bit much for some of them to grasp. Most men only watch about 10,000 trillion amounts of porn if they can get away with it.. However, not all have fear based sexual disfunction..

Watching porn is not the issue. You are the issue and what has happened in your life.

I am no expert on this subject. I have been told its all about safety. That one would have to learn to relax and trust the experience. I would consult a therapist online that would no more about this. ITs not uncommon for people to want to be safe. It just causes disfunction with others at times..

Take what you like and leave the rest.

OK

I think that it's a spectrum. what about when you cut out porn, and try masturbating through fantasy--- do you still have fantasies about what you saw in a porn?? i do. however , sometimes i think that the act of considering this to be problematic is the most problematic of all, if that makes sense. also, sex is not good when there is an overemphasize on making a partner cum. it becomes an ego thing, and mechanical.

I know what you feel, it's exactly the same for me, i used to love sex, but for over a year now i'm never excited, only when i alone and watch porn. I don't want to worry you but for me it has got so bad that I can't stand anyone touching me. I have been with both male and female parteners and it's still the same problem. I think it maybe a confidence problem, not in your partneer but in yourself. Whats your image of yourself?

Hello fellow curious and concerned sexual beings....
I have similar issues as many of you here.
I’m 23 and have sex pretty regularly. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I masturbate almost daily.
I’ve been having sex for many years now, and I can only recall ever having one or two (maybe) orgasms during sex with a partner. They were weak and unlike the orgasms I reach when I stimulate myself to porn. I want to share my orgasms to heighten both my partner(s) and my own experience during sex. I also want to add that there is this one guy who can use his fingers to make me squirt anytime he chooses. Without porn. I orgasm and cum with porn in about 5-10 minutes.. but all I can do is cum during sex with men. That’s fun, but I want the full experience. I just know I’m capable of orgasming during sex with the right stimulation (porn not needed) but it’s very difficult. I either need to be very mentally arosued (by porn) plus touching myself/playing with toy to the point of an O or feel very strong vibrations directly on my clit (from a toy) to reach an O. I’ve only ever reached an O without porn while using a high intensity vibe toy. The toy took the wheel and I lost control. Some guys have been completely against the idea of using a toy during sex as they feel inadequate. (I also want to add that I’ve never found a toy conveniently designed to place on my clit during sex.) I try to explain that it is nothing personal. Although sometimes I feel they could do more to try to turn me on and get me to the climax zone. Do I just need to find the right partner and the right toy? Possibly just the right partner? I get a little discouraged thinking I’ll never find the right combination of stimuli to reach a real big powerful orgasm with a man inside of me... especially not regularly. Does anyone experience that regularly? How do you get there? I don’t really enjoy being on top during sex and touching myself during sex without porn does nothing to help me climax.