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I'm wondering if someone can help me out...my husband has many sexual problems. He has a fear of intimacy with me...our sex life is basically non existant....he spends more time looking at porn than what he spends with me....he hides the fact that he even looks at porn...and even when i find out what he's been doing..he blatantly lies to my face and tell me that i'm paranoid. he's had an affair with some 23 little tramp while he was gone to iraq...yet told me the whole time that he was gone that he couldn't in any way shape or form be sexual with me because iraq didn't allow for him to feel sexual....he's afraid of my "sex toys"...most of the sex we have is a wham bam thank u ma'am.....he has no sexual drive or desire whatsoever....he even told me that he could live without sex period....i'm getting to my witts ends....i told him the other day that i wanted a divorce because i can't deal with all of his short comings anymore...it's not just the sexual problems there are other problems...life for instance, he's a compulsive liar.....he couldn't tell me the truth to save his life....he is secretive about everything he does...he makes me suspicious of everything he does...he tells me that he feels inadequate...and that he feels ashamed and embarassed bout going into porn sites and such...yet he's always doing it....and yet...we can go three weeks without any sexual contact at all....can anyone help me...or point me in the right direction to where i can find help....