fleshlights for retarded ejaculation?

Ok, I really want to get over this retarded ejaculation that I have. But right now I'm single. So I don't have anyone to... ahem... practise with. So I'm thinking of buying one of these... to train myself. Only thing is, I dunno if it'll make any difference. Because, I can come with in a couple of minutes by myself but as soon as I'm with a partner, takes ages. So although I'll be used to the feeling of a pussy it won't make any difference to the psychological aspects of everything.

So what does everyone think, shall I go for it?

Hi Jigsaw,

I think that there are better (and free) ways of improving your problem. On thing that you could try is to strengthen your pubo-coccygeal (PC) muscle. This can give you greater xontrol over your orgasms and can make them much stronger.

To exercise it, tense it (and hold the tension) for a few seconds, and then untense it. Then repeat this a number of times, usually 10. You can do this at any time of the day. I have been doing it everyday for the past three years or so and my orgasms are so strong now that they are painful. They also last 30+ seconds at a time and I can multiple-orgams.

Once you start exercising it and are masturbating close to the point of orgasm, tense the muscle just before the orgams and continue to masturbate. This is the ultimate way to tense it.

Oh, by the way, the PC muscle is the muscle that you use to halt the flow of urine mid-flow.

Kevin

Hmmmm.... I don't think that'll help much as even if I become more able to get more powerful orgasms, if I'm too anxious to come then I won't be able to have them anyway.

Thanks for replying though

I bought one for exactly the same reason. I have used it with success masturbating many times......but in my most recent sex with a woman, I was still unable to ejaculate. So the jury is still out.

I have been able to cum more quickly with the fleshlight since i started using it instead of my hand. I do seem to be better able to focus on the sensations in my penis so hopefully the fleshlight will prove helpful.

I purchased the the least textured model since I am trying to simulate vaginal intercourse as closely as possible. I would think that some of the aggressive models would be too stimulating.

jigsaw wrote:Hmmmm.... I don't think that'll help much as even if I become more able to get more powerful orgasms, if I'm too anxious to come then I won't be able to have them anyway.

Thanks for replying though

Okay, no problem. While I still think that you should try what I said, I also don't see any problem in buying fleshlights. Using it could boost your confidence in this area, I'm sure, and result in your being more likely to enjoy your next sexual encounter. For the record though, I have never been able to orgasm in the presence of a girl. I've had 4 girlfriends too, so it's strange. I don't let it get to me too much though.

Having read the big thread where this was proposed, and in view of my hard grip masturbatory style, I purchased Devon's Private Pleasures Pussy Masturbator.

Boy is it crap. Basically it's smaller, doesn't feel at all like the real thing, and of course, freezing cold in this weather. You also need lube, so it makes a mess if it drips out.

The coldness was a horrible shock. . I put it on the nearest radiator to warm up, and it picked up a whole load of dirt, plus newsprint when I put it down afterwards on a newspaper so there wouldn't be a mess on the carpet. These black stains seem unremovable. I can't send it back now.

I can't recommend this product, and I'm now dubious about the whole "artificial pussy" idea. Quite frankly I think you could make a better masturbator yourself if you taped a couple of sponges together and sprayed them with lube!!!!!!!! (only half-joking).

Or possibly used an Apple Pie.

Correction: WARM applie pie. Make sure your dad doesn't arrive home from work though while you have your dick stuck into the said pie. I wouldn't use an artificial vagina either, by the way. i've seen those things and they just look completely ridiculous. A simply and repeated flick of the wrist near the groin area is enough for me (at least twice per week now).

Thank you for the instruction on the correct application of the WARM apple pie Chucky Good to see that mods are on top of their subject.

LOL Magnus

While it may help with getting away from the feel/grip of your own hand, I should imagine you'd also have to slow down your stroke and eliminate any other kinds of self-touching you do (balls, the force of the downstroke into your groin, that sort of thing) to more closely approximate intercourse. And if you masturbate a lot, doing it a different way isn't going to help you very much (if at all) either.

My husband compromised a lot and we did not have success. Success has only arrived with a complete elimination of masturbation. And lately we've been backsliding on that and are feeling the effects.

The doctor he went to said that the only way to treat sexual dysfunction is to have sex. And I think he's probably right. Trying to treat a sexual dysfunction with something that has in all likelihood contributed to or fully caused the dysfunction is at best, a partial measure and one unlikely to lead to real, sustained success.

magnus wrote:Thank you for the instruction on the correct application of the WARM apple pie Chucky Good to see that mods are on top of their subject.

LOL Magnus

It was actually painful watching those films, but only because I felt so deeply sorry for poor old Jim getting caught each time in his bizarre sex acts. Still, he ended-up marrying that nice red-head, whatever her name was. The 'Flute' girl - Let's call her that.