Losing libido for weeks after sex

27 yo male. Due to social anxiety I didn't get any sexual experience until few months ago.
My anxiety prevents me from dating where I live, but now I'm traveling and online dating works quite well for me.

I always had really high sex drive. Even after quitting porn few years ago I can easily masturbate 1-2 times a day.

Now, however, after each sexual encounter I get into, I experience at least few days without libido. Currently I'm on my longest streak so far, I'll soon hit full one month without sex drive.

I know it must be related to stress I feel during sex. The strange thing is my stress is gone soon after sex, but my libido doesn't come back for weeks. It must be something deep in the unconscious I think.

Do you have any idea what it might be?
How can I get my libido back?

Thank you!

PS. My lifestyle is very healthy so any physiological problem can be almost certainly ruled out.

Maybe.... it just takes a little time for your libido to recharge its batteries?

Maybe... something about the encounters doesn't really satisfy, leaves you feeling meh about it...

Snaga wrote:Maybe.... it just takes a little time for your libido to recharge its batteries?

A little time? One month without sex drive for 27yo, fit, healthy guy is a little time for you?

I'm talking about obvious, strong emotional problem so please don't disregard it.

Maybe... something about the encounters doesn't really satisfy, leaves you feeling meh about it...

As I said I feel nervous during sex due to lack of experience. But many people do and it doesn't leave them sexual for weeks. Something is clearly wrong here.

Well I was trying to come up with something that was a little less distressful, for you to consider as possible reasons. I'm not disregarding anything, just thinking aloud. People are, after all, not all wired the same, what is normal for one, may not be another's 'normal'.

I think sex happens not in a seasonal fashion but rather depends on context. In the right set of circumstances it just happens, could be two or three days in a row or once a month. If you want more sex you have to create the right circumstances for it to happen more often, and that requires time and energy. If you just had sex is less likely you will be motivated to create the context for sex to happen.