FTM Masturbation Tips?

I am FTM transgender (Three months on T; Pre-OP). I am currently in a relationship with another FTM transgender (Five years on T; Post OP). About a month or two ago, I started getting comfortable enough having oral sex with him (where I am receiving). Before I met him, I wasn't comfortable with anyone going down on me for fear that I might smell weird and that I didn't know how to have an orgasm. In August, I finally figured out how to do it and I can't get enough. He gladly helps me out because he understands how much testosterone has made my sex drive increase.

It has come to the point that we are doing it every night just so I can get to bed. I don't know how to masturbate on my own and I feel like it's just another thing I've gotta learn how to do. It's affecting my mood significantly and I don't want my partner to think that I only want to have sex all the time. Is there any easy way to figuring out how to masturbate?

I got a massage wand recently, but it's way too powerful for me calm down and understand what I like. I just become overstimulated.

Hey there and welcome!

I take it, from all this, simple fingering doesn't do anything for you...

I realise not everyone's in a position to just throw money at a problem... but have you considered going to a sex shop and picking something out a little less stout than a massage wand? I know my other half has, thru the years, had things that were designed for more gentle clitoral stimulation, than the brute force of a massage wand. I'm thinking along the lines of a small AA- or AAA battery stick with perhaps a silicone flexible tip (the one I remember was shaped like a small dolphin). It looked (and was) useful, could work it a little between the hood and the clit , move it around gently, etc.

Or, if you prefer more pressure, just a small multi-mode vibrator. We've got one with oh I don't know probably about six programmed vibe patterns built into it, from gentle to strong, just hit the button to cycle thru them until you hit the pattern that works.