Boyfriend has ED, how can I help?

Several months ago, I started a relationship with my boyfriend and everything was "normal" in terms of sex drive and whatnot. Then it died down to zero for him.

He told me about his past, his 10+ years of being on Adderall, his depression, and his many failed relationships before (including several years without being with a woman sexually since).

It's just an overall apathy to the concept of sex and intimacy for him, and it's caused him even more stress that it is that way since we are together. I'll admit that it affected me as it started because I assumed it was a lack of interest in me, but he assured me that it wasn't after we started talking about it.

We've been open about the issue and I looked up what I could find about causes for it (the Adderall, depression, and dry spell all are possible causes, not to mention the past relationship issues of guilt and whatnot). It's a combination of not having a desire for sex, but also short duration if sex stuff actually does happen. He also smokes and isn't the best at diet or exercise. I have a feeling that a lot of it is medicinally-based, and then a heavy layer of psychological issues with insecurity and anxiety on top of that, which I've done my best to reassure him about. He's still able to masturbate, but it's more of a stress relief necessity than actually wanting to or even enjoying it much.

I don't want to break up because I love him for more than just the physical aspect, but I also know that it would not be a viable relationship in the long run given that I do still have a sex drive. I just don't know what can be done by either myself or modern medicine to help the situation.

Part of the loss of desire may be from the frustration of ED. Smoking, high blood pressure and poor diet can certainly be factors in ED.
I think that the first order of business would be a thorough physical exam with his primary physician. From there he may be referred to a specialist.
Treatment for depression can be more for maintenance than a single event and then you are done with it. There are many other medications and seemingly more everyday with hopefully less side-effects.
Eating well and taking care of yourself should be paramount.

The best thing you can do for him is support him. I'm a gay man with a boyfriend, and I've had erectile disfuction for quite some time now. My sex drive is pretty high, but Adderall is a much more potent medication, and on top of that, depression can kill a sex drive immediately. He could just he having a bit if a "hiccup" with his medication. No medication is perfect, and he could have got a snag in the road.

support him. try to get relaxed together. keep foreplay longer. when it is time, you can start.

Smoking, too much alcohol consumption can be a factor for ED. Nowadays it is a very common problem among men, so don't worry, exercise and medication can effect on ED.

Medication not only effects ED but also approve the quality of erections and sexual satisfaction. These medicines can solve all men's issues such as ED, size issues, low desire

Support him, talk to him, go for medication.

Wally58 wrote:Part of the loss of desire may be from the frustration of ED. Smoking, high blood pressure and poor diet can certainly be factors in ED.
I think that the first order of business would be a thorough physical exam with his primary physician. From there he may be referred to a specialist.
Treatment for depression can be more for maintenance than a single event and then you are done with it. There are many other medications and seemingly more everyday with hopefully less side-effects.
Eating well and taking care of yourself should be paramount.

Exactly