Can't get an erection around men

I am 73, and bi curious. I am married but wife isn't into sexual activities which is fine with me. I am bi curious and have webcammed with men where I have ejaculated without a lot of difficulty and I enjoy it.
BUT I have been going to bathhouses,which I enjoy, for the purpose of meeting men for sexual pleasure BUT I am unable to get an erection when I am in a room with other men.
My penis is between 4.5 and 5", cut when hard
I very much want to be able to get an erection around other men.
Does anyone have any suggestions of what I can do?

Hm, well maybe you should find a way to relax your mind body and spirit. It is not easy, but I sense it is the reason you are not able to get erect. Once you can relax inside yourself the dick will fling right up So what do you think is making you nervous? You're either nervous or not turned on. Either way that problem can be resolved. Maybe interact one on one with a man there to get more comfortable. Start there.

Or if nothing works, have you thought of taking viagra or something? Or maybe smoke some weed to get more relaxed. There is some kind of knot inside you that is preventing an erection. Just work out that knot inside. Become aware of what is preventing arousal. Good luck!