by Nyyx » Thu Mar 16, 2017 9:16 am
Hey there, how you doing. I will be honest I haven't researched this phenomenon as a condition because so long as it's going on between consenting adults who cares.
But I have been similar to you thrououghtmy life. I always preferred younger guys. It was down right awkward as a teenager, when at 16/17 my preference was for those a couple of years younger. At that age there is a massive stigma if you date someone younger.
So I dated around my age and older but all my boyfriend's would have been difficult to age.
At 21 I dated a 16 Year old, legal here if frowned upon, that didn't last because he went away to college and it was to much to expect him to keep up a Ldr.
Like you I worried I would lose interest in my partner as they got older, but as you said, their is a lot more too it than just looks.
Also age gaps lessen as you get older, at 20 seeing somebody a few years younger feels like a big deal. Once you get to your mid 30's onwards, 5 years here or there makes little difference.
As I have gotten older though so have my preferences.
I am in my late 30's now and my fella is 9 years younger.
It could be that as you get older so will your tastes, in which case holding down a ltr, shouldn't be a problem.
I appreciate you writing in about this as I have never really looked into it, assuming it was just a 'me being word's thing rather something that was recognised.
I might add though if you were a guy, we most likely wouldn't be having this conversation. It wouldn't be considered remotely unusual that you were attracted to women younger than you.
I think so long as it's consensual and your both happy and not stressing, crack on.
Have fun,be safe enjoy life.
I wish you all the best, TC.
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