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Is something wrong with me if my preference in men are 19?

Postby sadbuttrue » Sun Mar 12, 2017 11:41 pm

I like guys that are younger than me I always have when I was a kid it was actually much much worst and when I turned 18 not that good but it seems my attraction has matured a bit but very slowly. Like I'm 23. And generally prefer guys that are about 19. That's the ideal year for me. Every guy I've been with was a bit younger than me. I can be attracted to a guy who's 21 but not much older than that. I don't find teenage boys attractive either like 16 and under is underdeveloped especially under 16. Which I guess is good because the age of consent in Nevada is 16. I stay at 18 or above. But I prefer guys that are 18 or 19. That's just what I have found. The thing I found unsettling is that I saw something on hebephilia. Well when I was looking g at the article on wikipedia it had a link attached to ephebophilia. Which said it described people who were attracted to people in their mid to upper teens 15-19 and that most people who are teleiphjllic are attracted to people of this subset I'm guess the upper portion 18 or 19. But they have a preference for older people. I don't though I actually find men in their upper twenties and mid twenties very unattractive. Early twenties are OK but generally am attracted to men in their upper teens 18/19 years of age. But I clearly am not attracted to minors. Since I wouldn't date a boy who was like 17 for that matter I'd wait until he turned 18 to go out with him. I only think about sex with older men when I'm desperate like mid twenties. And it doesn't seem my attitude is changing as I'm 23 and basically in my mid 20's currently. So I'm just pretty curious is there something wrong with me that my attractions never matured beyond the legal threshold? And does this mean I'm an ephebophile? And even if it did I don't know do I have to try to get help for it? I mean since its not illegal? But I have thought long term how that works in a relationship. I figured I'd grow to love a guy if Iwas originally attracted to him like to some extent the first 5-10 years of our relationship. A relationship is more than just looks. Advice? Is this abnormal? Or just a different preference? That's OK? I don't get why being attracted to people who are 18/19 would be wrong?
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Re: Is something wrong with me if my preference in men are 19?

Postby Nyyx » Thu Mar 16, 2017 9:16 am

Hey there, how you doing. I will be honest I haven't researched this phenomenon as a condition because so long as it's going on between consenting adults who cares.
But I have been similar to you thrououghtmy life. I always preferred younger guys. It was down right awkward as a teenager, when at 16/17 my preference was for those a couple of years younger. At that age there is a massive stigma if you date someone younger.
So I dated around my age and older but all my boyfriend's would have been difficult to age.
At 21 I dated a 16 Year old, legal here if frowned upon, that didn't last because he went away to college and it was to much to expect him to keep up a Ldr.
Like you I worried I would lose interest in my partner as they got older, but as you said, their is a lot more too it than just looks.

Also age gaps lessen as you get older, at 20 seeing somebody a few years younger feels like a big deal. Once you get to your mid 30's onwards, 5 years here or there makes little difference.

As I have gotten older though so have my preferences.
I am in my late 30's now and my fella is 9 years younger.
It could be that as you get older so will your tastes, in which case holding down a ltr, shouldn't be a problem.
I appreciate you writing in about this as I have never really looked into it, assuming it was just a 'me being word's thing rather something that was recognised.

I might add though if you were a guy, we most likely wouldn't be having this conversation. It wouldn't be considered remotely unusual that you were attracted to women younger than you.

I think so long as it's consensual and your both happy and not stressing, crack on.
Have fun,be safe enjoy life.
I wish you all the best, TC.
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