Boyfriend can't cum

Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now. We have the most fantastic sex life, amazing in fact, but there is 1 issue that is becoming a problem for me. I say for me because it doesnt seem to bother him at all, which I guess means it shouldnt be a problem but it is. He is unable to reach orgasm through any other means than masurbation.

He doesnt have a problem with erections, quite the opposite, but he has to masturbate himself to the point of cuming and then try and insert into me before he comes. This doesn't always work though, infact it only works on occasion.

I have tried not to make a big thing out of it, as I know this could make it worse and I dont want to put pressure on him. ( I have had this with exes saying *I* take too long and then it just spirals to the point of impsosibiliy) Weirdly though, for all the problems I have had in past relationships with my own difficulties reaching climax, he seems to be able to make me cum, very quicky and multile times...so you can see why I want to keep this one. But, I feel that somehow I am doing something wrong. I also have a 'problem' in that I get incredibly wet and I wonder is the issue isnt more that there isnt enough fricion inside me? He says not, and he loves the fact I get so wet and I can't even bring him to climax with a BJ or my hand.

There was one time recently where he masturbated till he was nearly there and then I took over and was able to get him to cum in my mouth. But this is the only time it has happened.

I am being patient, encouraging and trying new things...I dont want it to become a bigger issue than it is. He seems happy as long as hes making ME cum...which is great for me, but I want to be able to make him cum easily too.

He says it is becuase he was single for so long and is used to cuming with his hand. I get that, but how can I train him to enjoy my touch? We are incredibly open talking about it, and he has said that he has stopped masturbating so that he can maybe cum when hes with me...but that is very few and far between at the moment and by now the no masturbation should be having some effect if that is what the problem is. But things are not changing.

I dont want to be that selfish one in our sex life...been on the recieving end of hat and is not good! I just want to make him cum as easily as he does me. ANY advice would be fab.

Does he watch porn regularly?

Otter wrote:Does he watch porn regularly?

I don't think so, at least we have had a conversation about porn and I dont think its a big thing in his life.

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Hi,

I'm a male who's experiencing the same as your boyfriend, the inability to cum when stimulated by her despite being able to achieve full arousal and enjoy it.
As a porn/masturbation addict who jerks off till I cum on a near-daily basis before I met her, I found myself to be unable to cum no matter how long she tries to stimulate me. However I still feel sexually satisfied when we stop and am not left wanting more.
Similarly, I genuinely am not bothered about it and have difficulty convincing her that I feel that way.
He's not bothered by it and still is sexually satisfied so I don't think you should worry about him not enjoying himself. Another plus point is not needing to clean the mess
I guess it could be a problem if your relationship goes into the next stage and you two plan to have a child.. but that's irrelevant for now.
It is only an issue if YOU want him to cum from what I see, else just enjoy yourselves!